Is this a no no/odd?

(23 Posts)
Stumbleine Tue 03-May-16 09:19:20

Fourth dc on the way! I am really struggling with finding a boy's name I love, however there is one which does fit the bill IMO.

But...my SIL's brother has this name. We have no real association with him other than having met once at their wedding. Would it be just odd to them though? For SIL both her brother and nephew with the same name?

Opinions gratefully received smile.

AlwaysNC Tue 03-May-16 09:20:25

That's fine, just use the name

Clarathemagnificent Tue 03-May-16 09:21:20

No I think it's fine. If you ruled out names on that basis there wouldn't be any left to choose from!

sooperdooper Tue 03-May-16 09:21:40

Erm, I think it could be ok - can you chat to her about it? It's a compliment really that you like the name but if you don't acknowledge it beforehand it might seem odd

RNBrie Tue 03-May-16 09:24:47

Totally fine I think. There aren't enough names in the world to pick one that no one knows anyone with the same name!

Sophronia Tue 03-May-16 09:30:49

I think it's fine.

Ludways Tue 03-May-16 09:38:55

I'd definitely say that was fine.

LadyAntonella Tue 03-May-16 09:45:20

I would use it and not worry at all.

LizzieMacQueen Tue 03-May-16 09:49:27

I would mention it to SIL first only because it might be a name she hopes to use in the future (if it's in her family/bit unusual).

What's the name OP?

exexpat Tue 03-May-16 09:49:49

I have a moderately uncommon name for England, but when DH's cousin used it for his DD I didn't find it particularly odd. If you hardly know the person with the name, I can't see a problem.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Tue 03-May-16 09:49:57

the only problem would be if it is a family name, brother and nephew already having it maybe indicates that, and if so then SIL might want to keep it on her side

not that she has sole usage rights, but she sort of has dibs if it is a family name

Malvolia Tue 03-May-16 09:51:11

It would never even occur to me that this was an issue, unless it's a name so stonkingly unusual that you've literally never encountered it anywhere else.

exexpat Tue 03-May-16 09:53:53

Tondelaya - the nephew in question would be the OP's DS. I think there is only one person with the name already.

mrsschu Tue 03-May-16 10:04:27

Absolutely fine. Maybe just mention it to her but I can't see why it would be a problem.

Stumbleine Tue 03-May-16 10:14:18

Thanks for the responses. Just to confirm - there is only one family member with this name (my ds would be the nephew).

It is a name which isn't really really popular (just inside top 100), but obviously still a well known name.

A4Document Tue 03-May-16 10:14:59

It's fine.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Tue 03-May-16 10:21:28

oh, i misread...thought the sil already had a brother and a nephew with the name and that your baby would be another.

not a family name then so go for it!

SnoozeButtonAbuser Tue 03-May-16 10:33:56

Completely fine.

septembersunshine Tue 03-May-16 16:02:10

Yup, agree with everyone else. No problems there. I would use it but maybe run it by her first if you still feel a bit unsure.

elor11 Tue 03-May-16 20:01:33

Definitely fine.

julfin Tue 03-May-16 20:07:14

It's fine.

Stumbleine Tue 03-May-16 20:31:12

Thanks!
Now to convince Dh that he really does like the name hmm. I don't want to have to play the whole 'giving birth' card but am tempted grin.

Tartyflette Tue 03-May-16 20:35:10

My DS has the same first name and surname as one of DH's cousins. (But DH has over 30 first cousins and most of them don't live in the same country as us)

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