Did your surname influence your choice of name?

(35 Posts)
bankofengland Mon 26-Nov-12 22:12:17

we have just started looking at names and noticed that some go with our surname better than others. Some are difficult to say and some just sound just plain silly. It has automatically cut down the pool of names from which we can choose.

I think our choice will end up one which we like and works rather than one we love. Has anyone else had this? Did you have to make a practical choice rather going with the name of your dreams. Did you regret your choice?

Have a surname starting with A which rules out lots of pretty girls names that end in A e.g. love Natalia.
The surname also ends in EY so lots of other names are ruled out because they are too 'sing song'/rhymey e.g. love Poppy but just sounds wrong.

Wierdly though lots of boys names seem to suit - I think because they have more consonants and not as 'soft' sounding. Which makes me think for a girl its going to need to be some kind of strong sounding name with lots of consonants!

(At least I have 6 months to think about this though! DP found my lists on my phone and thought I was crazy that I'm already thinking about it!!!!)

exoticfruits Tue 27-Nov-12 13:40:10

I would have thought everyone had it, to some extent. You have to watch initials too.

deleted203 Tue 27-Nov-12 13:31:21

Yep. My surname used to be 'White' and ex H was really keen on 'Lily' for our first daughter. All I could think of was that it sounded like a sanitary towel! (Or a Dulux paint chart). Definitely couldn't have chosen that.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 27-Nov-12 13:27:52

forgetmenots I like some of them too. Some do sound good together eg

Catherine Carter
Lawrence Lewis

None of the B names sound good with my DP's B surname. Except Benjamin,but that always gets shortened to Ben so wouldn't work either.

Longdistance Tue 27-Nov-12 13:04:45

I love the name Grace. But our surname begins with a Gr.
And Grrr to my dh!

MolotovCocktail Tue 27-Nov-12 12:59:48

I love the name Penelope, but couldn't use it for DD1 because our surname has 2 syllables and begins with P. It just sounds silly together (along the lines of 'p-p-p pick up a penguin', if anyone remembers that TV ad?)

Same for DD2: I adore the name Pearl, but it sounds daft with our surname. My youngest girl really suits Pearl; luckily, we chose a vintage/retro name for her so that suits her, too!

My married name presents fewer problems than my Danish maiden name, though!

forgetmenots Tue 27-Nov-12 12:28:12

I like alliterative names blush

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 27-Nov-12 11:39:49

Anything beginning with B is out,they all sound stupid with a short surname beginning with B. Actually,anything with a B in it does.

I love the name Molly but it would never have worked with my ex-husband's name.

weeblueberry Tue 27-Nov-12 11:07:33

Absolutely. Theo was one of my favourite boys names but bambino's last name begins with an O. sad

Our surname sounds stupid with alliteration especially as DH and I both had minor speech impediments which if our children had would have made it sound ridiculous. Other than that it wasn't too problematic for us.

hatsybatsy Tue 27-Nov-12 10:19:18

oh yes. we were all set to call dd Annabel and then realised that as we have a surname ending in "ell" this would sound pretty daft.....

we remain delighted with the name we chose though. Cannot imagine her being an Annabel now.

IWipeArses Tue 27-Nov-12 10:16:31

I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with alliteration in names, there's a couple in DS class who have alliterative names and sound funky. It depends on the names.

Our surname begins with a vowel, which ruled out names ending in -a for DD, which was a shame as I really wanted to use Sarah.

Jojoba1986 Tue 27-Nov-12 09:57:30

Our surname sounds the same as the last syllable in lots of words so we spent most of the pregnancy joking about all the funny things we could call DS. Unfortunately, this included all of my favourite names that DH didn't hate. In the end DH had to choose the name because he just didn't look like any on our shortlist to me. He's now 13 months & I still look at him sometimes & wonder if it's really his name! I guess it's because I knew several people with the same name when I was young & it doesn't seem right that this little individual should have the same name as anyone else! hmm PFB syndrome strikes again!

TenthMuse Tue 27-Nov-12 09:44:59

Yes, ours is a very common one-syllable name. With an overly popular name it would sound incredibly dull, but with a very unusual name it risks sounding like a comic book hero/Bond girl (think 'Christmas Jones'!). Longer names also tend to flow better, but most of my favourites are on the short side!

sleeplessinderbyshire Tue 27-Nov-12 09:35:40

Friend wanted to call her DD Isla but as her surname is Mann realised that wasn't wise. My surname is Jones which ruled out India for DD2 which made me very sad

CheungFun Tue 27-Nov-12 09:35:19

We have a short one syllable surname, so definitely needed at least a two syllable first name otherwise it just sounded too snappy!

meditrina Tue 27-Nov-12 09:30:14

Yes, we decided the DCs would have DH's mildly awkward surname and so there were a fair few we liked that we ruled out as clunky or risible. But that didn't bother me, as there are so many lovely names.

RarelyUnreasonable Tue 27-Nov-12 09:24:42

Not sure. A lot of names we liked were discounted for being too tricky to say or v alliterative. But the name we decided on for a girl was the worst culprit of all! Luckily dc2 is a boy.

TeaDr1nker Mon 26-Nov-12 23:14:10

We could not have had any name beginning with D, or initials would have been a derogatory word. No I don't regret the name we chose, a bit sad as I love the name Devorah but we had to consider what if any word her initials would make.

Having said that she has a really long name, two middle names (as do I) and a double barrelled surname. I don't think it matters, we gave her her names because they mean something.

Rhubarbgarden Mon 26-Nov-12 23:06:46

Yes. A long complicated foreign surname meant that we had to choose short easily recognisable first names that would not require spelling or any questions about pronunciation - the poor blighters are going to spend their lives spelling out their surname as it is.

Snowflakepie Mon 26-Nov-12 22:58:04

Oh yes, anything starting with an H or with a strong oooo sound doesn't work here. Has caused issues with a possible boys name as the only one I really did like was Matthew, but it sounds ridiculous. Fingers crossed DC2 is a girl!

bananaramma Mon 26-Nov-12 22:45:54

Yes, we have a short one syllable surname. We therefore chose 2 syllable first names that aren't normally shortened.

sausagesandwich34 Mon 26-Nov-12 22:45:49

surname starts with an M so any M first name were out

DD1 would have been Megan if we had gone with my surname, but she would have been 1 of 4 in her class if we had so quite glad really

DD2 came along and we realised it also excluded Emma which I was sad about because I've always like that name

SomersetONeil Mon 26-Nov-12 22:45:24

We have a DS and a DD and both names are family names, so our surname didn't determine the names per se.

However DD's name has three accepted pronunciations - the most common of which sounded wrong/repetitive with our surname, so we went with another pronounciation.

Our surname also ends with a Y which basically rules out names ending with a y/ie/ee sound. DS's nickname ends with a Y which is fine; but an actual 'ee' sounding first name and surname was just a bit too twee for me.

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