Middle name?

[stuffedmk]

If you had one child who doesn't have a middle name would you give your second one?
We had awful trouble thinking of a name for DS but like two names this time (well I prefer one DH prefers another lol).
DS is 9 and I asked him if it would bother him if his brother had a middle name, he started off saying it would but changed his mind a few days later. I just wonder if he will change his mind back again and be upset or even if he does whether he is old enough to get over it quite quickly.

[minipie]

Mmm, I probably wouldn't have one with no middle name and one with a middle name.

But you could give your DS1 a middle name now if you wanted (course you'd have to find something he likes!)

[othersideofchannel]

I'd probably treat both boys' names the same - either both have a middle name or neither do.

[Bunbaker]

I'm with other - all or nothing for both.

[EBDteacher]

I think it's a lovely idea to let DS1 choose his own middle name now and register it for him.

(as long as it's not Woody Lightyear or anything ).

[anonymosity]

I have one child with TWO middle names and another with just one. When I had the first I thought he might be the only child I was having and wanted to get certain names in. Luckily the second one was a girl who wouldn't have suited either of those 2nd names.

[threefeethighandrising]

A friend of mine is the only child of about 5 siblings who doesn't have a middle name - all the others do. I think she does wonder why they didn't give her one.

[HelenaRose]

My brother has a middle name; both my siblings have short first-names which can't be shortened. And mine is loooooong and has no middle.

I did feel odd as a child. (I've since got over it, I hasten to add. )

[cowboylover]

Might grow up thinking you ould not be bothered to think of one for him like my DH does with his parents! I think its a bit extreme tho of him to think that and they obviously didnt take the time to explain like you have to your DS so maybe ok?

[reddaisy]

My mum and dad couldn't agree on my older brother's first name for weeks so they didn't bother with a middle name. So none of us have got a middle name which I think is the fairest option.

When you are a child you can fixate on every difference between siblings and see favourtisim everywhere in my opinion so I'm glad we were all treated the same.

[megonthemoon]

I don't have a middle name, my younger brother does. Never been an issue.

[JentlyDoesIt]

Another one here with 2 DC. DS (older) only has 1 middle name, DD has 2. We used family names and knowing we were only having 2 DC, decided to get them all in. I don't think DS feels hard done by (he is only 4 though!)

[PuraVida]

I am the only one of 4 siblings with no middle name. Never once bothered me or made me feel inferior. I just figured my parents had run out of names by the time they got to me

[Nightstar]

My husband is annoyed that his older brother has two middle names and he only has one (and a girly one at that). He has mentioned it a couple of times now that we are looking at names, and though it may not have bothered him much as a child, the very fact that he is still raising the issue at nearly 40 years old goes to show it is never worth doing!!

[stuffedmk]

Good input ladies....I think I will work on getting it down to one name just to be safe, DS is very sensitive so I think it's better not to risk it.

[threefeethighandrising]

You could always have another child, to use the extra name

Or you could let DS choose a middle name for himself and get his name changed by deed pool (I meant that as a joke, but the more I think about it I think actually, why not?!)

Sorry I'm in a bit of a silly mood tonight. FWIW I think you're right not to risk it.