High NT of 4.4 - amnio on Friday

[Bettyblue123]

Hi all
New here but have taken a lot from threads I've read. I know this is treading old ground but any similar stories would be appreciate! Basically had our NT scan done bang on 14 weeks and measurement, despite very uncooperative baby, was taken as 4.4mm. My bloods were normal so put together with my age (38) and the NT we are now at 1:5 for downs etc! Had a private scan at 15 weeks just to see baby again and see and sonographer measured it all as perfect for its dates and no obvious issues. However hospital being ever negative with us and saying scan is too early to show anything and we need to prepare for a high possibility that something is wrong! I feel like I'm in hell. It's relentless waiting for this test and then the result! I can't think about anything else and I feel like we're not being allowed to be positive! We've gone for amnio as I spoke to the consultant who does harmony and he suggested, since my bloods were fine, amnio might be better as it might not be one of 'the big three'. As my husband put it, it feels like we're being told our baby is fucked! (Excuse my language!) Very very low today! Any help?

[5amisnotmorning]

I can hold your hand as this time 4 years ago I was in the same situation with a 1 in 2 probability. She is now 3.5 and in her first preschool nativity today. Her cvs came back negative and she has no abnormalities. I don't know what your results will be but there is hope. The waiting is hell though. Try and keep yourself busy as it helps. I also went through it again last year as DS had a 1 in 15 probability but just elected for the harmony test with him.

[Bettyblue123]

Thank you 5am. Just trying to be hopeful but it feels tough today. Enjoy the wee ones play xx

[5amisnotmorning]

It is hard I know. It brings tears back just thinking about it as the not knowing is horrendous. Thinking of you.

[pizdets]

betty really sorry you're going through this. We had an nt of 4.6 a few years ago and sadly the baby had a rare chromosomal condition. We chose to terminate in the end but the waiting was hellish.

I think there is hope - nts can measure larger, especially at the end of the date range and if the baby moves a lot. My bloods were also fine but we had a scan at 15 weeks and she was clearly not growing well - arms and legs were almost off the scale (short) and she was measuring about a week small overall.

I don't have much advice but wanted to send sympathy - the waiting drives you out of your mind. We now have a very healthy (and chomosomally normal) little boy who was conceived shortly after we lost our little girl. If you need advice then I can recommend a charity called ARC (antenatal results and choices) who can give impartial advice on testing and choices whatevr stage you're at.

Good luck!