Have name changed. Sorry for long post.
Ds & "friend" have been good friends for 18 months.
Ds party 2 months ago: "friend" turns up late with parents - mother giving off very negative vibes. A few people notice, but I didn't think anything. My mum later catches "friend" (very dominant, boistrous etc) pinning girl up against wall, hitting her repeatedly in face with balloon until she cried. Whatever. Later on, another mum comes to get me (I'm busy sorting out cake/ BBQ/ food for kids/ music/ pass the bloody parcel etc) as ds is crying. Find "friend" repeatedly hitting ds in head ("friend"'s parents stand there watching and do nothing). I take ds away and calm him down, then get on with rest of party. It gets to going home time, I'm giving out cake/ party bags etc when sudenly, ds starts crying again. I turn round and see "friend" an inch away from ds. I ask ds what happened. He said "friend" didn't speak to him. (:-/) I say 'Ok. Is that it? Nothing else? You haven't been hit?' "Friends" mother subsequently loses the plot, screeches at me (embarrassing, in front of everyone) that her ds "has never hit a child" over and over again, also saying "I'm really hurt you could suggest such a thing - I know my child!" etc and storms off. I go after and try to explain to her about the earlier incidents, but she was having none of it. I tried again (was really, really upset by this point - it's ds's party ffs) - another mum came and backed me up saying she'd witnessed "friend" hitting ds.
My DH attempted to then smooth it over, but it's been pretty tense since then. Today, it was the last day of nursery and we all went over the park for a picnic. All very nice. "Friend" belts another boy in the head, says it was an "accident", then when mum of boy tells him off, "friend" goes running to mum crying saying it was an "accident". Later on, same boy runs up hill, followed by "friend" and ds not far behind. "Friend" runs up to boy, pushes him really hard onto his back, then points and laughs at him. Ds looks at me worriedly (he knows that was out of order) and boy is left crying on the floor. Dh & I saw the whole thing. "Friend" and ds comes down hill and I say to "friend" 'what did you do that for?' "Friend" says "It was an accident", then bursts into tears, runs over to his mum crying and points at me! "Friends" mother giving me daggers, comforting her manipulative ds, who is pleading "accident". She doesn't ask me or dh what happened, even though we witnessed it. I tried to say goodbye to her later on, but she turned her back to me and wouldn't look at me.
Tbh, I want nothing to do with her - or her ds - but my ds is good friends. They are going to the same school in Sept.
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Peronellesblush · 02/07/2010 16:24
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