In nagging DH about his family?

[sparklingchampagne]

DH isn't particularly close to his Mum or sisters, we live 400 miles away(! not through choice )

He never bothers to make arrangements to see them, says they should come down to visit us as they don't have young children

This Summer, we are going on holiday about an hours drive from them and did this so we can spend a few days with them at the end of the holiday - but he hasn't asked his Mum if this is OK yet (we booked the holiday in Feb!)
Also, his sister got married earlier this year and we weren't able to go the wedding as it was abroad and term time (we both teach) so she is having a party to celebrate. She sent the invites in March, and he won't hasn't replied.
I said I am happy to go up (although it is a long way) or alternatively when we go up in the Summer we could all go out for a family meal if we can't make the party.

There's no 'bad blood' or anything - he just finds it boring at his Mum's/his sisters get on his nerves/he doesn't have anything in common with them as he left home at 16 etc

AIBU in wanting him to at least be polite and answer invitations/visit once in a while - I think it's important for the kids to see their Granny. Or should I leave his family to him

BTW. . . I haven't nagged him yet. . .

[parakeet]

Why don't you ask him if it's OK if you speak to his mum and sister yourself?

Presumably his sister invited you BOTH to his wedding party, so if he continues to ignore her, then he is making you appear rude too. If she has invited you, then you have a right to respond.

[sparklingchampagne]

Thanks Parakeet - I ahve suggested that (as I normally do birthdays/Mother's Day etc! ) but he has said no, he ought to do it!
But he hasn't. . . .