I am worried I'm being unreasonable to DP but I just can't seem to help the terrible anger I feel towards him and I keep losing my temper with him.
We met when I had come out of a really difficult relationship, I'd spent a long time extricating myself, selling the house, sorting the divorce and basically getting back to being me. I was finally pursuing my goals again, had left teaching and was re-training and was in the process of sorting out emigration to Australia to live near my Godchildren, which I've wanted to do for years. I wanted DP to consider coming with me but he refused. He said he has an obligation to look after his parents when they get old and infirm (which they aren't yet) and he couldn't move overseas as his mother is scared of flying. He said we could still have a wonderful life here and go on lots of holidays.
To cut a long story short, I love him so I stayed. Since moving here, and buying a house I have found out that DP is actually in a lot of debt. So far from having lots of holidays, we are struggling financially. We have 9 week old DS and I'm worried sick about money and scared I'll have to go back to work while he's still really young. We also now live 10 minutes down the road from his parents (who I can't help resenting as they are the reason I'm not livign in the sun) and I am expected to take DS to see them at least once a week and it's even worse becuase DP has borrowed money off them so I now feel obligate to see them!
AIBU to be so angry with him? I feel I was misled, I gave up my dreams and independence to be with him and he lied about his situation and what our lifestyle would be. But I do love him, I love DS, who I wouldn't have had without DP and we do have friends nearby and I could be happy here. How can I put aside all the anger and hurt and try to enjoy what I have? Any advice here? I know it's a long thread, sorry, but I feel I'm destroying my relationship with my negativity.
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Beachbreak · 16/06/2010 22:03
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