We went to a barbecue at my parents house yesterday. DH had a fair few beers but didn't seem drunk. He kept on "playing" with the children but just winding them up and making them scream, doing things such as picking them up and holding them upside down and even though they were both protesting he just kept doing things to annoy them, smirking away.
Anyway, he then started to throw these sponge tennis balls around everywhere, with quite a force; I was sitting on the grass holding the baby and one just hit me really hard underneath my eye and on my cheekbone, and it really really hurt. It was quite a shock too. I said that it had hurt a lot and he started saying "Don't make such a fuss, it didn't hurt at all, it's only a sponge ball", in front of everyone and belittling me. Then he was just arsey for the rest of the barbecue. So I just ignored him and carried on having a nice time.
When we got home he asked why I was being off with him and I said that the ball had hurt me and it would have been nice if he'd apologised and seen if I was okay, rather than just being horrible. He then went off on one saying that the ball didn't hit me at all, I was making it up as there was no mark, I was deluded for thinking it hit me, I should grow up, get over it and sort my life out.
I am/was really upset as I don't think I deserved him to say those things, and clearly it's what he thinks of me but only says when he's had a few drinks. It's the principle though; if I hurt someone accidently I say sorry and check they're okay, yet he tries to turn it back on me saying it's all my fault. I tried to talk to him last night but all he kept saying was "YOU started it. Get over it and grow up", so I just watched TV and then went to bed.
This morning he was up early for work and woke me and said he was so sorry about last night but I'm still upset as I don't see why it's okay for him to say/do what he likes and then just think it's okay to apologise and I'll be fine about it. :-(
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Pushmeinthepool · 24/05/2010 11:22
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