To be really upset.

[xkatyx]

Me and Dh have both decided to TTC baby number 3, in March i fell pregnant (first try) but unfortunetly had a early MC.

We both decided we would wait a month have first proper period and try again, which we did. DH was great we actually had fun instead of the "have to do it sex" and were both so excited but my period came very early and i am really upset to stupidly think i would be lucky enough to fall pregnant first time again.

But today as we were walking to pick 2DC up from school he just happen to drop it on me that INFACT he doesn't fancy having another baby and maybe my period was a good thing

Of course i would never want to make my DH have another baby but to drop it on me the day my period decides to show and when im feeling really upset.

I honestly don't know what to say to him and he doesn't seam to get why i am upset. Just now he asked me "what was the matter" and i said "i'm angry and upset, and dont want to talk about it at the moment as i dont want to argue" then the git laughed and moved over to the other sofa!!!

HELP am i being over emotinal/hormonal?

[LoveBeingAHungParliament]

Of course you are not, he needs to understadn that his complete change is a shock to you.

[FabIsGoingToGetFit]

YANBU

but you have to talk to him calmly and fairly.

[xkatyx]

Yes i think i will wait till tommorow as i'm so upset at the mo, and him laughing at me has made me angry i would proberly say stuff i wont mean.

[Prinpo]

Fuck no, you're not being over-emotional. It's a big enough thing to come out with, let alone on the school run.

We had been trying for dc3 and had 2 mcs last year. DH was hesitant to try again, more because he was worried about another mc and what that would put us through. When we sat down and talked about deciding whether to try again it was one of those BIG talks, the kind where the kids get packed off somewhere.

Does he usually avoid difficult subjects? Could he have chosen to bring it up like this to avoid a big confrontation (ie in front of other parents or dc)?

So sorry for your mc.

[CheekyPinkSox]

Sorry that you went through a MC.

Maybe speak to your OH and tell him how his words have affected you and how upset you are.

[xkatyx]

Thank you all .. his reasson's being are (is what he told me waiting at the school gates)

"it will be harder to go on holiday, not to mention how much more it will cost" and "we can have our life back to normal once 2dc starts school properly"

Which i replied, where has this all come from as we had already decided all this.

I mean having a 3rd child i feel is a huge step so we def didnt go into it lightly we have been talking about it for months and had everything figured out in out heads. we both have been on our vitamins .. i feel really let down

[DuelingFanjo]

You're not being over emotional but maybe he's just being a bit of a crap bloke.

My DH used to say quite insensitive stuff when I was long term TTC but I think it was his way of trying to say 'it's ok if it doesn't happen' as if he thought that would take the heat off me.

[ijceb]

Oh xkatyx I am so sad to hear this, it is absolutely terrible my heart really goes out to you.

Absolutely no way are you being unreasonable, I would have been the same.

This is quite a major change of mind for him, I think you deserve more of an answer from him as to why he said this. I agree with the others, I would wait a day or so and sit down and talk to him to let you know how you feel.