A friend of my parents died recently. They were family friends so not someone I vaguely knew but as I'm now 41 with my own family and life I have seen the couple if they've been at my parents or at bigger events as I've got older.
I work part time and this year as DD is starting school I have little holiday available. The funeral is on one of my working days.
My mother is a little bit "not lose face" type. I have two siblings. One has no kids and one has a full time nanny. Both are able to take time off to go to the funeral. and have no childcare issues,
My mother was giving me a hard time the other day as I told her that I probably wouldn't be going - I said that if it had been a non-work day I could have probably got my in-laws to sit with the kids and would have attended but it doesn't work this year and explained why - she was having none of it.
She gave me the silent reproach treatment.
To be honest I know her reaction is partly that she wants to be seen to have her whole family with her. I am irritated that she hasn't even asked me if I want to go. It is my choice after all and truthfully in this particular instance I would be going as a duty to my parents rather than because I wanted to go.
Is that bad? If my mum was going on her own I would have gone to support her but she's not - she has a good family support that day.
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to want to decide whether I go to the funeral and not be told to ?
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herbgarden · 17/04/2010 09:50
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