concerning ds1 toys

[LittleMrsHappy]

DS 4 has loads of friends in the area, and he is allowed outside our front with the local children.

We have been here 4 years and in that time he has had 5 bikes stolen, and also loads of his toys are going missing. (bikes are a different matter, as we have only found out that a man in a transit van is stealing children's outdoor toys, and is now being handled by the police)

We live in a very nice area, and most parents are lovely, and I know kids can be kids when it comes to toys, miss placing them etc.... but me and dh have now said no more toys outside the gate due to them going missing etc...

So DC has took a few transformer toys outside and the boys outside have been playing with them and one walked away with one in his hand, I went over and took it off him and said the toys stay in our garden, the mother of the child has shouted at me in saying I should not be teasing her child by my dc toys and that I should teach my DC to share .

Now dc is sitting playing with two other boys nicely and sharing his toys.

what would you do, or should I just not allow dc to play outside with his toys???

[paisleyleaf]

I think he might be too young to have lone responsibility of all the toys outside.

[Iklboo]

'should not be teasing her child by my dc toys and that I should teach my DC to share'

Erm - should she not be teaching her child not to steal/wander off with other people's belongings?

You should nick her car and tell her she shouldn't be teasing you with it and she should learn to share

(DISCLAIMER - no, you shouldn't of course but you get me drift)

[LittleMrsHappy]

all is toys are not outside, he takes a few out, I have never implied all his toys are outside either x

[Firawla]

I think I would just let him take not so good toys outside, ones that it wont be too much of a problem if they do get lost or broken, but not his best things, its just asking for trouble if that is the attitude of the other mums! The child if they are young may not realise not to take it (clearly the mum didnt teach them!) but the mum should be baking you up in making their kid give it back, not justifying them walking off with it! So I would explain to your ds that he should keep them inside so they dont get lost/broken?

[LittleMrsHappy]

gggrrr miss read.

[Danthe4th]

There is always one child that spoils it for them all. We have very much the same sort of situation, but things don't go missing, one child always breaks them on purpose and generally is a pita.
I always tell my children if they take things out not to get upset if they get broken or go missing, anything special, new toys etc do not go out the gate.
We do have masses of toys and I keep a huge crate of old toys, cars etc that they can take out and sit on a rug with friends.
The mother of the child is talking nonsense, take no notice, she should also be teaching her child a bit of respect for playing with other peoples toys, sharing does not mean walking off with things.
I would allow toys to be taken out but not special ones, and when the children are all playing just mention that when they have finished could they all help by putting them away in the crate.