to want to punch BIL in the face?

[StephysFamous]

I'm not usually one for violence but in this case I may change my views.
Here comes the rant! Long story.
Anyway, today I signed into the family Ebay (by family I mean we all use the same account to buy and sell) to check an item I'm watching. I noticed an alert saying there's questions for an active item. Click on the link to find guitars which look very familiar , pass laptop over to DH and say "Are they not yours?", thinking he was selling them and forgot to tell me.
DH then takes a look and thinks WTF?! We look further into the listing and find the email linked to the listing is BIL, DH had no intention of selling his "babies".
It really bugs me that if we weren't watching an item we would have never known they were gone because they are kept in PIL garage.
Back to the question in hand, aibu to want to punch BIL in the face?

[Tee2072]

If you don't, I'd bet your DH will.

That takes some nerve. I assume they have been reported to Ebay as stolen? As that is really what BIL has done?

[neenz]

omg

[neenz]

what I mean is YANBU - that is terrible!

[StephysFamous]

Tee2072 DH is always very calm and walks away from situations. He's waiting until later to phone BIL as he as at work, if it was my choice I would be calling him at work.
We have removed the items and changed all passwords, have also suggested picking the items up from the garage but we have no where to put them so kinda stuck for choices right now.

[vidia]

Could htere have been some sort of misunderstanding?

If these are your DH's babies, why are they not inside your house, why are they in PIL's garage?

Do you think BIL just thought they were crap lying around and that he was doing PIL a favour clearing it up?

[hocuspontas]

Isn't it the PILs fault though? Maybe they asked him to clear the stuff out of the garage without thinking.

Are there any bids?

[FabIsGettingThere]

You must have room for a couple of guitars? Under the bed?

Your DH needs to approach this as it is a genuine mistake and not that your BIL is pulling a fast one. It could end up nasty otherwise.

[FiveGoMadInDorset]

YABU - if they were his babies why aren't they in your house.

[StephysFamous]

They're not in our house as we've moved within the past month and all our cupboards are still full of boxes etc. The guitars used to be kept in a practice room they had which they had to let go with new babies on the way.
I can't see how this could be a mistake, have phoned MIL and she knows nothing.
Will be going to PIL this evening to pick up the items and a neighbour is willing to let us store them in her spare room for the foreseeable future.

[greyhoundgal]

To be honest if they meant that much to him he would have made room for them so yes YABU

[greyhoundgal]

Also BU about changing the passwords on the account, if it was a personal account then fine but you said it was a family account, surely you shouldnt be changing passwords without everyones say so.

[MummyDoIt]

I think people are being a bit unfair to the OP here. Lots of people have families who store items for them so it's not unreasonable to expect those items to be kept safely and not sold by another family member. Telling the OP she should have kept the guitars at home isn't really the solution.

I'd check first that it wasn't a genuine mistake and maybe the guitars had been confused with other items BIL had been asked to clear away. If it isn't a mistake, I'd be bloody furious!

[JustMyTwoPenceWorth]

You are not being unreasonable. I cannot believe that people are saying that because you asked for items to be stored for you, that you should accept them being sold by your bil!

Outrageous!

However, you can take the guitars. You can keep guitars anywhere. My dad has 2 propped up down the side of the sofa!

So take them. You do have room.

Do come back and tell us what your bil had to say, won't you?

[damnedchilblains]

Firstly yanbu it's funny in a cheeky way but I would be just as pissed as you!

secondly, why do you have a family ebay account? Maybe it's just me with my serious trust issues, but why? Do many people do this?

[StephysFamous]

greyhoundgal We were in the process of making room for them, they had only been in the garage for two weeks. Have informed all the family about password changes and they all are fuming too.

MummyDoIt BIL was not asked to clear anything, no genuine mistake. He seems to think DH is due him £400, which is absolute nonsence(sp?) Even if he was due him money why attempt to sell two guitars and we have also found two of DHs amps on Gumtree if BIL was owed £400 when these items are worth a lot more than that.

damnedchilblains
The family account is from my DHs side, I'm not too sure why they have it. I think it's because MIL sells a lot of custom jewellary and with all the family buying and selling from one account there is more feedback.

[damnedchilblains]

I was going to say you were unreasonable to change the passwords before you spoke to him about it but then read your last post and couldn't stop laughing. What a complete arsehole, and a blatant bloody thief!

[dizzydixies]

omg YANBU, has he phoned BIL yet?!

[l39]

YANBU!

What an amazingly awful thing your BIL has tried to do! Thank goodness you caught him out.

The family eBay account seems to be asking for trouble even if everyone involved is honest, though. How does it work with different bank accounts linked to the same paypal? Could someone pay for something out of your account by mistake? What about when payments come in, does the buyer get to choose which account their money goes to?

[l39]

Oh, now I remember, when you sell something the money doesn't go automatically into your bank account, it's available in paypal. Suppose one of the family spends the paypal balance when it belonged to another family member?

[wonka]

YANBU! I can't believe he'd see your stuff without discusssing money owed first!

[Longtalljosie]

I would tell him if he had sold them, you would have reported him to the police for theft

[StephysFamous]

l39 Hasn't happened as of yet.
I'm really glad there is a family account or we would have never known about these items being for sale.

There's more than DHs stuff in PIL garage, BIL is selling stuff that belonged to them when they were a band, the stuff was bought from money the band made from doing a TV ad.
Have told BIL he has no right to sell anything until an inventory has been set up, to see what they want to sell and what they want to keep. Any money made should then be split four ways between the members of what was once a band.

Longtalljosie We go some listings on Gumtree removed by reporting them as stolen

BIL will need to learn I will always be one step ahead

Sorry if I'm making no sense at all folks, I'm only finding other bits out as I go.

[WingedVictory]

Even if BIL was in the band, it still has to be split up properly. Perhaps your DH could get the other band members to pressure BIL, and take some of the pressure off you and BIL.

[WingedVictory]

Oh, no! I meant "take some of the pressure off you and DH"

Obviously, BIL needs more pressure on him, not less!

Hope you are getting sorted out after the move!