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I do appriciate I'm being pathetic but ah well!

Made cards with all 3 charges for mothers day, helped make presents (nm just photo of all 3 kids in a frame we all made) and bought a present on behalf of the kidaroos (keyring with picture of them in(£7)

I KNOW £7 isnt a huge amount nor the cost of printing photos and buying frame to dexorate, but it took ages etc...(pathetic i know!) but would a "thank you" from charges mum have been to much to ask?

Feeling a bit taken advantage of recently hence my probable unreasonbleness!!

<am a nanny btb!>

What you did was lovely.

She probably likes to think her DC's did it all by themselves

My lovely nanny gave me a montage of photos of DS1 in a clip frame one Christmas - was the best present I had that year, by a country mile. I was extremely effusive (and tearful - was all things I'd missed, as was working FT at the time, thankfully no more...) in my thanks. Of course YANBU!

YADNBU. Of course she should have said thank you.

What a lovely thing to do - unbelievable that she didn't show common courtesy and thank you.

Is she like this about other things?

WWYD for fathers' day?

She Acknowladges the gift normally i.e "really really loved the birthday gift" but not a direct thank you iygwim

Never bothers me normally as i know she IS grateful and appriciates them but this really irritated me!

Do you pay for those sort of things yourself ?

IMHO they should (within reason) come out of general funds for craft stuff, play sessions, whatever else you need cash for.

YANBU. A simple thanks or some sort of show of gratitude/appreciation is not much to ask. That was a lovely thing you did!

YANBU

I pay for little gifts like this myself which I dont mind, I tell MB which craft stuff to buy and she gets it as tbh I dont think Id get the money baxck!!!

ForgotThank you for your replies!!

Well, thank you for your thanks............

thank you for your thank you's for my thank you's

Hmmmm not sure of the protocol......

What should I do now MNSP has thanked me for my thanks?

Off to google.

ahhh though, if she said she really really loved them, maybe that counts as thank you? As long as she showed appreciation and gratitude, does it matter if she actually said the words "thank you"? It is an interesting thing to think about..!

It is rude not to say thank you for a gift

Ah but thats what she normally says...she didnt even acknowladge it this time...even when I asked how her weekend/mothers day was!

Eagarly awaiting Chaos's reply

Ok - after extensive research.

I have checked a well-known online guide to etiquette.

Nestled between Finger (little, angle of when sipping) Finishing school,Fish knives, and Hats in church, Haitches was Gratitude:

MNSP we have been doing it all wrong - one can never say thank you enough, but the power of the pen is mightier than the sword - apparently we should be using gilt edged cards and "As a general rule, a thank you letter should always be handwritten and sent within a week to ten days of an event".

So sorry for the breaches of protocol (hangs heads in shame whilst nipping to Greggs).

<Reaslises Chaos will never know how much Milk has just laughed!>

What is the etiquette for speaking in the third person, Milk asked

I cannot provide gilt-edged cards with handwritten thank you for your thank you for my thank you for....oh I'm confused!, but I Can offer you a , Of COURSE it is provided on a beautiful Wedgewood plate, with a REAL bone china tea cup and saucer

But with regards to etiquette, can One offer a jammie-dodger-esque biscuit without looking like a fool?

One is quaite flattered by the offer of the biscuit.

Am afraid one can only accept said delicacy if they have been lovingly hand crafted with the help of all 3 charges, purchased with the hard won remuneration from one's own pocket and presented on vintage wedgewood with a freshly pressed linen (400 count) napkin.

If one enquires how one's delicacy was, one will graciously and profusely offer gratitude, ensuring the words 'Thank you' are conspicious in one's response.

I cannot promise that they have been lovingly hand crafted with the help of all 3 charges, purchased with the hard won remuneration from one's own pocket and presented on vintage wedgewood with a freshly pressed linen (400 count) napkin.

I CAN promise that I have managed to salvage at least 2 from the torn packet bought 10 minutes previously, can assure you that not a single charge has touched it, presented on the plates we decorated last year (I'll let you use my unidentifiable blob panda plate!) with a GORGEOUS sheet of kitchen paper <sainsburys recylcled dontcha know>

I shall record your apology and play it to the afformentiod charge's mother so she get's an idea of what one sounds like <still smarting over lank of response to several loads of washing and complete cleaning of 4 huuge outside toys (slide etc)>

Har har har

Just invoice her for the gifts

One has just called Jeeves to get the Bently out for a night time jaunt to MNSP's domicile.

One is seriously tempted by the offer of supermarket biscuits and paper napkins.

One is utterly enthralled by lovingly created artefacts with dubious endangered species daubed on the anterior surface, dating from the neo-modern age.

One is desperately hoping that MNSP resides within a 30 minute drive from .................................................................................................... .................................................................................................... .................................................................................................... ...................


Bermingham. (how let down are you?)

Seriously though she should be flicking thanking you for all your efforts. Doesn't know waht a treasure you are - and now you are a national treasure thanks to the power of MN.

I'd be blinking liking your boots.

Breeding will out.