This is more a was i being unreasonable than an am I.
This is a thread (sort of) about the 60 year old IVF woman. A lot of people are asying she should not have a baby as she may die before child is an adult (which I actually agree with but then I am being a hypocrite).
I have a terminal illness that I have always had that mean I could well die within the next 10 years. I have two young children. The first one was a lovely accident (never intended to have children due to the illness but always wanted one). Had baby as no way could I have a termination. Checked with my (young and wonderful) parents that they would help dh when/if anything happened to me. I went on to have a 2nd child as
a. I wanted one.
b. If anything does happen to me I like the thought that they will be together rather than poor dc 1 going through it by themself.
I could stay well for the next 20 years though realistically this is not going to happen. I could be ill enough to need a heart and lung tranplant within the next 2 years. When I do need one the chances of me getting and recovering from one ( as with everyone) are roughly 50%. So there is probably a less than 50% chance of me seeing them to adulthood.
Before I get totally flamed obviously when I think about this it is unbearable and I do everything I can to make sure this won't happen. But the choice I had in reality was DC1 possibly loses me early on or she is not born at all. But in reality I am not that different to the IVF woman . and genuinely wonder what you all think. (gently please) Hope this makes sense.
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petitmaman · 19/01/2010 13:44
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