I see my parents regularly - generally once a week, sometimes, just once every two or three weeks. Over the past couple of years there have been a series of light-hearted sounding, ostensibly jokey comments about me and my circumstances.
Examples of the comments include: that i could have a nip and tuck on my stomach three weeks after having a baby, that it's lucky i'm going on a shopping trip soon as my clothes should be on the bonfire they're so old [true, i have been wearing the same things for years, but i'm skint and they know it], that my husband is gay/will cheat on me with one of his female colleagues, that my six month old son is 'fat like his Daddy' [my husband], constant comments that we should buy a house near them [we could never hope to afford this], jokes that where we live is rough, constant comments that our back garden looks awful [though it belongs to the downstairs neighbour and is beyond our control]....that's it i think.
As context, our relationship is generally okay, they do tell me how proud they are of me, DH and DGC, how much they admire us etc etc. They dote on DGC, shower them with gifts, help out as much as they can etc.
But i'm starting to get really upset about these personal comments. They say they're jokes, but i feel very hurt by them.
What would you think? I need some kind of perspective here i think.
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CoffeeMum · 18/01/2010 14:08
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