to think that DH ought to wear a warmer jumper

[MrsCadwallader]

instead of continually rushing to switch the heating on?

It is January. Surely a sensible choice of clothing would be long sleeve t-shirt and / or a shirt with a good thick woolly jumper? Not a short sleeved t-shirt and a cotton, summer-weight jumper, in which (to quote) it is 'a bit chilly'? For a clever man, it seems to me that he displays an alarming lack of common sense.

It's driving me nuts . I'm psyching myself up to Say Something. Psyching is required because saying something is going to constitute nagging and I need to be prepared for the backlash. I also need to be prepared for the inevitable retort of 'Well, maybe I should just leave a good selection of assorted jumpers around the house to choose from?' (This, by the way, is the sensible solution adopted by my very good self. As my jumper needs vary throughout the day I consider it prudent to have wide variety at my immediate disposal. However, when buying a new jumper or cardigan I do draw the line at considering which will look nicest draped over the chair in the hall along with all the others, which DH suggested ought to be the basis of my selection criteria )

So - unreasonable to think DH ought to wear seasonally appropriate clothing? Or am I a stinge bag for not wanting to put the heating on?

[dilemma456]

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[MrsCadwallader]

I've bought him warm jumpers. I was obviously too subtle in my presentation of them, merely saying 'I thought these would be nice and warm for the winter' and not 'Would you please wear the frigging woolly jumpers and stop complaining about the cold?'

If you hear any news reports about a man dying in strange circumstances with a thick woollen jumper shoved down his throat, well......

Perseverence. Patience. Grr.

[MrsCadwallader]

Oh - and the corpse will be looking 'a bit chilly'

[belgo]

Definitely say something. Having the heating blasting is very expensive, bad for the environment and dries my skin out dreadfully!

You should just like my dh when it comes to leaving jumpers on the sofa! Why do I manage with the same jumper the whole day?

Turn down the heating!

[Firawla]

lol, atleast he wears a summer weight jumper. my dh wears only a tshirt, saying "i'll never wear a jumper in my own home" so we have heating on 24 hrs at the moment!

[MrsCadwallader]

Ah, see - part of the problem is our shitty heating system. No thermostat. No ability to adjust the radiators. It is either on or off. I prefer off, apart from a couple of hours morning and night (hence the variety of jumpers). DH prefers on, the moment it feels 'a bit chilly'.

[MrsCadwallader]

Continuing to talk to myself on my own thread.......

Miracle of miracles, DH actually (and completely unprompted) put on a lovely warm wool turtle neck jumper this morning

In the spirit of the positive reinforcement of desirable behaviour I fell over myself telling him what a lovely jumper it was and, phwoar, didn't he look gorgeous in it and oooooh, what a lovely colour and phwoar, it really brings out the colour of his eyes and oooooooooh, it was all soft and snuggly. And then I jumped him

He looked rather pleased with this result and I suspect there may be increased wearing of woolly jumpers in the future. Problem solved?

[Angelcat666]

"Oh - and the corpse will be looking 'a bit chilly'"

lmho

Well, re your last post, it should get a result if you are prepared to keep 'jumping him' regulary, at least to start off with

[gorgeousgirl]

[Angelcat666]

Oops...that should be regularly

[MrsCadwallader]

"Well, re your last post, it should get a result if you are prepared to keep 'jumping him' regulary, at least to start off with"

In the interests of lowering our gas bill, I think I can manage it. I mean, it should, in itself, help to keep him warm?

Tch, the lengths I go to for the sake of economy and saving the planet

[differentID]

it's taken 6 years of telling my dh to put a jumper on instead of the heating for it to occur to him that it's a good idea and that as long as you make him think it's his idea he will do it? Compliment him on his knitwear choices. it will stroke his ego.

[2010aQuintessentialOdyssey]

Buy him a nice soft merino base laywer. He wont need thick wool jumpers then. cotton is chilling, so not much use as a base layer.

Out of interest, how cold IS your house?

[crankytwanky]

Genius move, Cadwallader!

[MrsCadwallader]

2010 - I'm not sure how cold it is - it stays pretty warm upstairs, but downstairs does get bloody brassic first thing in the morning (open plan, rubbish windows that let a howling draft through, etc).

[ItsAllaBitNoisy]

Are you his mother? Is he 6?

FFS.

[MrsCadwallader]

If I was his mother I would like to think I wouldn't be jumping him

[ItsAllaBitNoisy]

Rewarding him with a shag for putting a jumper on? Odd.

[fernie3]

you would probably get on well with my husband. He hates the heating being onand if it is on he turns it downso low thta the radiators feel barely body temp to me!.

I tend to wear long sleeved tops even in summer as I feel the cold so much. I especially like the way he turned it off in the morning then heads out to work for the day in a nice heated office while he expects me to shiver my little (big) bottom off at home.I think not!.

If he starts I remind him that I am capable of deciding how hot or cold I am feeling and also of choosing my own clothing in the morning (which is never paritcularly outgragous).Also of the fact that our gas bill isnt huge and we are not struggling to pay it so why should i spend the day miserable!.