DP and i are going through a real rocky stage in our relationship. In fact, its always been rocky and we've only just got back together after a 5 month split. We have DS (17mo) together and are currently living together.
However, DP works a lot and his job is 50 miles from home. Its retail and i hate the fact that he always seems to have to change his hours, cover someone etc etc.
We haven't had sex in months. Despite many attempts from me. I even dressed up once and he laughed at me - i was mortified and he said he wasn't "laughing at me" per se, more that it took him so much by surprise that he was shocked and felt like a wee school boy. I wouldnt mind, but its not like i'd gone for a whole big S&M thing, it was a black corset and stockings. Anyways, my ego has been hurt really badly and i just don't feel like he fancies me anymore.
I'm so fed up at being the one who does everything in this house. I cook (from scratch most nights, even baking), clean, do laundry, shopping, pay bills, bring DS to creche every morning and i work 20 hours a week myself. Yes, i know i'm lucky to be working part time, but i'd like a little bit of input from DP too now and again.
He comes home from work in the evening, has a dinner put in front of him, doesn't help with dishes, doesn't offer to bath DS as much anymore and then lies in front of TV in the evening when DS is in bed and is away to bed about 9pm.
Now i understand that his job is hard and he does very early mornings (up 5am most mornings) but its getting ridiculous. I feel like i just live in a house with him, there is no relationship whatsoever. Converstaion is minimal and often out built up resentment comes to the surface and we end up arguing.
We've had one session of relationhip counselling. I told DP that our relationship wouldn't survive unless it happened. He cancelled the second one becuase of a problem at work and now we have to wait until half way thru january to get another appointment.
I really want to run away some times but i do love him. He says he loves me, but i wish he would show it. I have given up attempting to initiate sex becuase all i ever get from him is "i'm too tired."
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lorrycat · 01/01/2010 14:18
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