i do wish my Dp's nephews just say "Thanks for the card and money" by just ringing/FB/text, whatever!

[biglips]

Dp's nephews who are 13 and 16. They arent talking to us cos their mum split up from their Dad about 2-3 years now and they arent talking to their mum either who is Dp's sister. Actually they arent talking to any of Dp's side of family now. We travelled over to them on Boxing Day hoping to catch them as if we rang them, they wud not wait for us and go out, so i posted the cards with the money in it. We never get a thank you from them which it would be nice to feel appreciated. Dp pointed out that he wanted to do this so to let thh nephews know that we dont want to fall out with them and to keep in touch.

Their Dad had been on FB a few times and even is there on the chat... im waiting for him to say thanks of shall i leave it?

he had tried to drag me in their relationship but i said that i wasnt interested and he should move on cos hes married to someone else now. (yes it was a super quick marriage - the wife is from Thailand).

[biglips]

soz i didnt proof read it!

[biglips]

they werent in on Boxing Day anyway

[kif]

doesn't sound like a nice situation for anyone

[merrycompo]

Well if they aren't talking to any of you surely it's unsurprising they haven't said thanks?
But very rude of nephews although I feel sad for them being stuck in the middle
very nice of you to give them money though

[biglips]

all i want is a thanks as they havent bought anything for my girls and stepdaughter since they split up

[biglips]

well we are at their house, the youngest is fine but its the eldest can be abit frosty to us and then he warm up to us. i think its their Dad telling the kids lies about their Mum doesnt want them, blah blah blah as she did left them and came back a week later to the house but it backfired

[biglips]

i agree...prob just gotta bite my tongue and i do hope that they will realised that we are all there for them. its a shame

[Plumm]

they probably feel stuck in the middle of the divorce - give them time and I'm sure you can have a relationship with them in the future.

[biglips]

yes and i agree with that too.

thanks as i just had to get it off my chest

[madamearcati]

Crikey I haven't even thought about doing thankyous yet !

[Brunettelady]

My mum disowned me when I was 4 and I was brought up by my dads mum. I didn't see my mums side of the family for years, then they started getting in touch again. When I was a teen, I was a bit funny about HER side of the family because of what she did. It took me a while to realise that the others still wanted to know me even if she didn't which I appreciated, but only when I was an adult really.

Keep at it, once they get a bit older and more mature, hopefully they will realise that you were still there for them. Their dad should make them say thank you though seeing as how you still give money to them. Could you not have a quiet and polite word to him about it?