to be P'd off about DS's part in the nursery play?

[Holymoly321]

DS is 4, and today was the nursery xmas play. He was Father Christmas. He'd been practising for the past couple of weeks, been singing the songs at home etc. So he was excited about the play. But he and the Elf were stuck right at the back of the room, behind the parents who were sitting in rows watching all the other children perform the xmas story, doing all the songs - DS couldn't even see the other children - only to be brought on at the end when Santa's Sleigh turns up at the stable. I'm not a 'precious mother' but I thought it was outrageous that ALL the other children (mary, joseph, the stars, angels, wise men, shepherds, sheep, kids who were playing in thier bedroom before the spaceship took them to the moon(!))were at the front on the 'stage' for the whole 20 min performance, getting to sing ALL the songs, when poor old DS and his elf were stuck at the back, basically in darkness unti lright at the end! He was gutted in the car on the way home. Surely it wouldn't have mattered if he had been at the front with all his friends? He's four for gods sake! None of us were expecting Hamlet - the story plot is just an excuse to get the kids dressed up in outfits - the staff surely didn't need to be so prescriptive about who is on stage for what time? AIBU?

[StayingSantasGirl]

It does sound a little unfair and thoughtless. Hopefully the next thing your ds is involved in will be better thought out.

[niftyfifty]

YANBU - I worked at a school that did this type of thing with the children one year and it was so unfair on the children who had to sit at the back unable to see and looking at the back of all the mums etc, and on the children's parents. Like you say, you aren't expecting Hamlet but you do expect to be able to see all the children for most - if not all - the time!

[LastTrainToLapland]

YANBU. They are four years old FGS. What is the need to create a "tableau" at this age? Equal opportunity to participate and perform much more important.

I hope your ds is feeling better and isn't too disappointed?