16 ago, my parents divorced. Their first marriage (to each other) is now a distant memory. My dad reamarried a few years later, they've recently celebrated their 10th (i think) wedding anniversary and have 2 small daughters. My mum has had 3 long term relationships, including a second marriage and subsequent divorce, but she is now settled with her new partner and his teenage son. I'm really happy for each of them - they're both more contented in their new relationships than they ever were with each other.
But all that cr@p about parents divorcing each other but not their children is nonsense.
Over the last 3 years, as their new lives and families have become more concrete, their old family has faded away.
We rarely see them. In october were invited to a very small get together at my dad's house and none of their other guests (4 people) even knew that my dad had grown up children, let alone grandchildren. A rather awkward moment all around when we introduced ourselves!
I don't mind so much for myself, I'm an adult, but my heart breaks when I think that my children have 2 grandparents, who live 3 and 7 miles away and they won't see either of them over christmas because they're spending it with their families. We didn't see either of them last christmas. My mum is always busy during December ("It's christmas, I don't have time to see you! People like to go out at christmas" - a direct quote when I asked when she was coming round to see the kids - any time during dec not even christmas week).
I just spend the whole of December with this huge ache in my heart. I feel angry, I feel sad, I feel resigned. And then the next year it happens all over again.
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crazycat34 · 03/12/2009 06:02
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