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to worry about my date being too short?

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By Wed 04-Nov-09 20:41:24 Add message | Report | Contact poster

I've been speaking to a guy who contacted me through a dating site. We've seen photos of each other and had quite a few long conversations and I really like him, he seems to really like me. Obviously, the real test is when we meet.

BUT I can't stop thinking about the fact that he is only 1" taller than me! Which means I don't want to tower over him in heels (which is 90% of my footwear) and it's making me really nervous about meeting him! It's not that I have anything against short guys as such, more that I presume he would prefer me to be shorter (and petite?) so that he doesn't feel less 'manly', and vice versa, I think I might feel less feminine.

Am I unreasonable for making a big deal about this? I'm just turning it into a big issue in my head and is the only reason I am feeling a bit hesitant about meeting him, even though I am actually really looking forward to it!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 22-Nov-09 00:01:51

Hurrah! I have read this from the beginning, but didn't have much to say as I'm 5'1" and have never been taller than anyone I've dated. But I am made up that you have met someone lovely- good luck to youse!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 21-Nov-09 23:36:11

Glad it's turned out so well! Am a fan of short men myself, DH is 5'6".

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 21-Nov-09 23:16:22

whethergirl - so glad it's going well, and he does sound lovely indeed, well done you.

Incidentally - I'm wondering if I'm the only one who read the thread title as meaning 'short' as in he made some excuse and buggered off after 20 minutes ?! Glad this not the case!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 21-Nov-09 22:48:17

Yes, he is an inch taller actually so don't know what I'm going on about. I think I meant that I would be taller than him with heels. He has got a great build - very muscular arms grin

I think Sophie Dahl and Jamie Cullam look really sweet together actually.

Anyway, just come back from staying over at his place, had an amazing time, he made it clear that he was serious about me and I'm feeling really lucky because he is a really decent, caring, sexy, and fun to be with bloke! Still not sure about wearing heels but I actually don't give a monkey's arse about his height cos he is LOVELY grin

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 20-Nov-09 16:13:26

I thought he was still an inch taller...?

Good question about if i would like a guy shorter than I am...I m 5'1", so that would be very short indeed!!! Would depend on build - I don't know if I would be attracted to someone so...so....small!!!

I do like short men, but like a bit of a build on them

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 19-Nov-09 07:33:43

GLad it's going so well. Would agree with posters who said just wear the high heels and don't ask about it.

I understand where you are coming from, as I was adamant that I wanted to go out with tall men. Went on a few dates and realised that it's more about build for me. I am 5' 8" and athletic - broad shoulders, quite muscular. I felt uncomfortable with men where I had the weight advantage, even with 6 footers who were extremely slim. Finally ended up with DH who claimed to be 6# 3" but actually 6' 2" and slim.

An old uni friend of mine is 5' 2" and never short of the ladies, as he was such a lovely man. His wife is 5' 6" now. In case you are into yer sleb twaddle, remember that Sophie Dahl (5'11") has dated Mick Hagger (5'7) and is now engaged to Jamie Cullem (5'4")! Clearly doesn't bother her!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 19-Nov-09 07:13:39

Have to agree NotAnotherNewNappy! wink

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 19-Nov-09 00:24:39

purpleduck, absoloutely right, I have waited long enough and feel really lucky to have met him. But when you say you love short men, do you mean shorter than you? Because my issue is not that he is too short, but that he is shorter than me, or that I'm taller than him - if that makes sense.
And yes, I think he would have mentioned it by now if he had issues with it as he is very honest, revealing and upfront about everything.

Good fact NotAnotherNewNappy! I suppose I can see why. I'm sure to find out very soon! grin

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 18-Nov-09 22:35:17

I read somewhere once that couples who are equally matched in height have better sex wink

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 18-Nov-09 21:55:40

Haven't read whole thread but my DH is only a teeny bit taller than me (maybe 5 5?) I love it and hardly ever wear heels anyway.

Wore ballet pumps on our wedding day and was glad of the excuse! grin

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