Newish, first OP, first AIBU...
Bit of back story.. not too much.. oh, I tried... but it could be a flaming book...
DS (3.10) & I came back to the UK after a disasterous 3 years in DH country. DH is sorting things out over there and will himself be back home in a month or so.
While we were in the godforsaken hellhole DH country we hardly ever left the house, initially due to DH being a bit crap about balancing work and home in a country which only has one day off a week.
After a while though, I did venture out, but as a foreigner, it was so oppressive and alien. I was followed, stared at, and photographed almost every time I left the house. In the end, I preferred not to go out at all, until cabin fever would hit and I'd go out for a couple of hours.
There were no opportunities or facilities for LOs, only once a week I would be able to meet another expat mum so our kids could play together.
Now we are back, my Dad never seems to miss the trick to rub in that DH should be here... OK he should, but can't be helped right now, but it's in plan... I don't need telling every single time he meets me.
Dad never stops saying DS is bored, despite the fact that he has more to do here in a day, than ever he had to do in a month over there... Here he has nursery, we go out and about and he has his GM that he sees every morning before school.
The latest comment is the one that really did cross the line for me.
DS had a bad D&V bug 2 months before we came back here, he messed himself in public. I cleaned him up in the toilets with the changes of clothes i'd taken as a precaution etc, but since then he refuses to do poos in the toilet. Saves them up for his night-time nappy before he goes off to sleep...
So dad asked me if there was any improvement on this the other day, almost the minute he got into the car... "No..", I said, in a matter of fact sort of a way, as I was negotiating a roundabout or something.
"Hmm, He's punishing you." said Dad. He said it more than once, before I said to him that it was 2m before we left there, apparently it's common so soon after starting PT, if there is a D bug etc... That kinda shut him up at the time, but...
When I got home, after a while, it brought back all the other 'odd' comments he's made into a whole new light. I'm feeling really hurt by it all. As if he's saying I'm the shittiest mum ever or something...
My Mum and sister say to me that he's totally out of order, and I will be talking to him about the comments, but what to say?....
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to be utterly hurt by Dad's remarks?
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groundhogs · 26/09/2009 11:30
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