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How much shall I ask for in the divorce settlement?

Everything. The bastard.

you are overreacting. Counselling could help as long as you are clear that it must never ever happen again or you are gone

Did your children witness this? They too may need help!

today, as in for the first time?

congratulations, you have a good un there!!!

Enough to buy a self-closing toilet seat made of solid gold.

You should leave it down ..... see how he likes it!

Womens Aid.

Now.

You owe it to your children not to stand for this abuse.

I wouldn't leave him over this.

I'd hire somebody to take care of him.

Perhaps you might like to talk this over with someone who understands what you're going through? Women's Aid or someone similar?

I hope you can get through this, for the sake of the children

Who made the rule that seats should be down? Maybe toilet seats should be left up and we are in the wrong, nobody ever worries about the inconvienience for the men having to lift it up ever time.

Plus if it is up then you are guarenteed a piss free seat.

Just a thought.

As you were.

Ooh, crossposts with Reality!

his and hers loos is the obvious answer

in our house the rule is girls outnumber boys so seat should be down as a rule, and replaced after use

I wish DS woudl learn to lift the bloody seat in the night instead of pissing all over it .

I've caught him at it, asleep I think, hands behind his back and pelvis thrust out, merrily spraying all over the bathroom.

As WTHTW, leave the seat up

(however the pan is a bit cold when you forget in the middle of the night!)

Leaving the seat up is a seriously bad idea if you have a DD who wanders to the loo in the night and falls in.

If men can't use the loo properly (spraying is even worse than seat abuse) then they should be sent outside like dogs. Or Bob Flowerdew - enrich the compost heap.

Just to clarify it is my seven yr old DS who sprays, not my housetrained DP .

On reflection I think the only thing to do is hire a wallah to stand beside your toilet and lift/lower the seat according to the needs of the toileter.

A small price to pay for marital harmony imo.

"the needs of the toileter" [shudder]

WTHTW - you got there before me.

GirlsAreLOud - consider this. For 44 years and 6 months of going to the toilet unsupervised no one has ever been able to explain WHY the seat has to be left down after I have finished.

Lets see now. Multiply 44.5 years x 365 days x 6 times a day is 97455 times I have had to lift that lid and replace it. Its a tyranny. Just once, I (and your DH no doubt) want to rebel and leave that seat up. Why am I not allowed to just leave it up and then whoever follows can either put it down or leave it up as the need and desire arises?

Why has it got to be down and why does it annoy women if it is left up? Anyone?

Because it's disgusting to leave it up.

the WHOLE lid should be placed down, and then the toilet should be flushed.

Otherwise all teh germs escape into the room and all over your toothbrushes.

<vom>

LOL at "tyranny"

My Mum has a separate toilet and bathroom - a far more hygienic arrangement imo.

Not much space in there for the bog wallah though.

Because if you leave it up it is a trap for the unwary (esp small girls in the dark). Down is safe.

Reason to leave the lid shut:

Tamagotchis don't work after they have been lifted out of the toilet.