to not want a padded bra for 32a dd?

[deaddei]

dd has just been fitted for bras- bless. We got a couple of very plain white ones (more like a couple of small hankies stuck together!) and I thought for her birthday next week (she'll be 13) I'd get her a couple of coloured ones, as opposed to "under school blouse" ones.
Popped to Tesco's this morning but all they had were underwired and padded ones- now I don't think padded is appropriate for dd. Or AIBU, and an oldfashioned old biddy?
Where can I get some pretty ones please?
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[FairLadyRantALot]

hmmm...why do you feel they are inappropriate? I mean padding is not necessary about making boobs larger looking is it....I personally prefer padded ones, because my nipples are showing through my clothes otherwise...
I only have boys though, so, never really thought about it much...

[SlartyBartFast]

dd (aged 12) really likes the padded ones.. she is about a 32a, sigh, but that is what she likes.
primark do nice pretty ones,

[OtterInaSkoda]

Underwired is ott imo, but padded isn't so bad simply because is stops your nipples from being quite so prominent if you get chilly. In a way padded could be more demure than unpadded, iyswim.

[deaddei]

Never thought of that- and really it's to stop nipples being prominent she needs a bra!
I'll have a look in Primark.
Thanks.

[kidcreoleandthecoconuts]

I think it's more a question of whether it's suitable for a 13 year old to wear a padded bra rather than a padded 32a being the problem. My first padded bra was a 32a Wonderbra but I was 17! I don't think I'd feel comfortable with my DD wearing a padded bra when she's 13 but that's just me. YANBU.

[SlartyBartFast]

but the padding doesnt add that much though, perhaps it is for comfort and discretion. and any way - if they want to be larger at 12/13 why shouldnt they? isnt it natural?

[slushy06]

I always find padded ones more comfy and I hate non wired bras I am a f cup so the padding is def not about looking larger I just find them more supportive and I wouldn't have thought they will make that much difference to your dd size. Definetely primark for pretty bras also at your dd age I was already a c cup and I never got more attention than the other girls so I doubt a padded bra will draw her to much attention if you are worried about that.

[SlartyBartFast]

the m & S ones seem to be padded!
must be the fashion

[FimbleHobbs]

Thin padding is probably ideal, rather than a balconette Wonderbra sort of 'padded bra'.

I remember the small boobed dilemma of needing to wear a bra to fit in with other girls/cover up nipples, but not actually needing one.

I'd get your DD whatever she likes, its sooo horrible feeling body/puberty conscious. When I was at school you got teased for having no boobs and for wearing a padded bra, I was never going to win. Still, 20 years later, I'm not bitter. Oh no, not me. And at least they haven't sagged much after 2 pregancies and countless years of breastfeeding.

[sits in corner mumbling and eating chocolate]

[colditz]

It's not inappropriate for a 13 year old to have bigger boobs that 32a, most do. Let her fit in.

[cocolepew]

I got non-padded bras, for DD, in Tesco's sale for £1.25 for 2!

[LadyGlencoraPalliser]

Have a look at M&S. I got some 30A Angel bras for DD (12) last week. I was initially a bit about the padding, but she is going into Yr8, ALL of her friends have developed while she is still at the ironing board stage, so I can understand her desire to at least look like she is keeping up with her friends in the development stakes. And they had a 3 for 2 offer as well...

[trellism]

Do you mean padded as in Wonderbra, or moulded foam?

IMO moulded foam is fine - it is much more concealing and does not particularly enhance size. The underwire I do have more problems with - there isn't any point in wearing a wire until she has finished growing and can get properly fitted.

Also, aim for beige/pink shades rather than white, as white shows up way more under a school shirt.

[deaddei]

I will take her shopping tomorrow!
i think I always equate padded with the "Hello Boys" ads from years ago.
She can choose what she wants. Tbh, as long as it's a bra, she couldn't care less.

[AmazingBouncingFerret]

It definitely depends on the type of padding (says she who spent her school years in her sisters hand me down wonderbras) nipple coverage padding is ok, but for a 13 year old cleavage enhancing padding is a bit OTT.

[MissAnnesley]

Re. underwire be careful of this, I read a thing a while ago that underwires can damage delicate, developing breast tissue, absolutely not recommended for young girls.

[MissAnnesley]

Re. what someone else said, yes I think there is a difference between padding which will make a less developed girl look more like her mates and padding which is designed to make you look breasty in a more sexualised way if you see what I mean. At that age you don't want to stick out for being ahead or behind in the development stakes.

[HSMM]

My DD prefers plain white, because then you can't see the pattern/flowers/spots, etc through her clothes.

[deaddei]

Missannesley- you have put into words my thoughts exactly!!!

[trellism]

It is hard to find teen bras which are discreet under clothes, which is just silly.

I was looking for some cheap non-wired moulded bras in the Angel section at M&S for myself (not blessed by the tit fairy) and they do seem to have a lot of loud prints - not great for under a school shirt, I agree. However, white bras are very evident under white clothes.

Calvin Klein do an excellent non-wired moulded bra in plain beige which I love, you can get them from Figleaves.

[JemL]

I don't know if they do them in an age-appropriate range but t-shirt bras are good - they have the extra thickness (for the concealment of nipples) but without the padding. I agree, it does seem a bit much (but then I had my first wonderbra at 13...knew I was never going to be blessed in that area...!)