Dh has a 14 yr old dd from a previous relationship. Dh and I have been together for 9 years and have 2 kids together. Until 2 years ago he saw his dd every other weekend. Then her mum and step dad moved further away (2 and a half hours) and dhs work chnged to a lot of weekend work so he now sees her every 3-4 weeks. Her mum wont let her near our house (whole other story) so dh has to bring her to their local shopping centre to eat, park, cinema etc.
I'm pregnant again, unplanned but we're thrilled as we were told after complications last time that we'd prob never have more kids.
Usually we all go up to see sd every 2 months, dh does the other journeys alone as it's quite far for the kids to travel in a day and we can't afford hotels etc to stay over.
We asked his ex to drop sd to the shopping centre occasionally after baby is born so we can all go up together to see sd. She flatly refused. We are talking about 3-4 times a year here max. The shopping centre is literally 5 minutes up the road from her house and sd and her mum go there every weekend anyway. Personally we tink ex is just being awkward. Her and dh don't get on at all and now she's saying that if he won't come to the house to collect sd then he won't be seeing her. I think it's a shame that we won't all be able to be together at any stage. Should add we are saving for 7 seater car but that won't happen for at least 2 years. AIBU to want her to drop he dd up the road to us 4 times in a year?
I'm getting so stressed about this, when we had dd ex stopped sd meeting her till she was 4 months old. Don't want the same happening again.
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babytinkabell · 21/07/2009 20:07
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