facebook again

[mumsway]

I am not one of BIL's friends om facebook so wasn't able to view his profile etc. Was just browsing facebook yesterday and for some reason his profile etc is now public, I went onto his photos and found some of dd along with her name. I had the same problem with FIL and another social networking site last year. DH asked him to make it private which he did.

Should I ask BIL to make his profile private again. I just don't like the idea of dd's photos being seen by anyone. I don't even like her photos being on the internet but I know there is nothing I can do about that.

BTW I haven't and will not put any photo's of dd on facebook and I wouldn't dream of putting photos of anyone elses children on it. AIBU

[mariemarie]

Hi, YANBU, I had the exact same problem with my SIL a few months ago. Like yourself, I dont have pics of my children on MY facebook and certainly dont want any on other peoples pages.

I dont actually get on well with my SIL so my DH had to approach her. At first she didnt remove them so I messaged her on facebook and was probably a bit sharp but it did the trick.

I would politely explain that you dont want the pictures on there. In my opinion, I wouldnt just ask for the privacy settings to be change I would ask for the pics to be completely removed and no more put on. That way, it avoids any problems in the future.

Hope you sort it. Although I am on facebook I have to say it is very dangerous in a way and causes no end of problems for people.

Oh, and one more thing, you are wrong when you say there is nothing you can do about it. I am almost certain you can contact facebook and have the pics removed because they are your children and you have not given permission for them to be on there.

Good luck

[junglist1]

YANBU. You have every right to insist the pictures are removed or the profile made private. I'm not on facebook and neither is P. It's supposed to be a fun thing but there's so many instances of affairs, finding out your mates are bitching about you etc, and situations like this.

[greatwhiteshark]

YANBU - children's privacy is never taken seriously and I hate it.

[mumsway]

Thanks for that everyone. Totally agree greatwhiteshark.

[Rafi]

YANBU. DP & I are both on Facebook, if someone put up pictures of our DD without asking we'd ask them to remove them immediately.