I have not been living with DP and his daughter long but have always been concerned about his daughter who is 11. She eats far more than I personally think she should and is overweight. What worries me more is that DP once became so obese that he needed surgery to lose weight. He lost all the weight but only because he had to and he still doesn't eat properly, he just eats as much as he can of bad stuff.
I thought he was doing really well with his diet as he was losing so much weight but the first night I stayed over there I was pretty shocked at what him and his DD eat. Bacon sarnies every morning, packs of 10 donuts, chocolate cakes, DSD munchies on chocolate every night when she's in bed.
She doesn't do much exercise, has a free pass for the gym but never goes, same with DP.
Last night I was really annoyed as I'd started a conversation about changes I'd like to make to all of our diets (including me and DS). We all agreed on it, no strict diet, just cutting out some of the crap and switching to healthier meals with the odd treat. She seemed really excited about it.
So last night before I went out I made salmon and cous cous (which she excitedly helped me make) with lemon and we made some fruit smoothies for afterwards. Everyone commented on how nice the meal was (I let her take all the credit lol) and I went out feeling really pleased with myself.
Then I came home a few hours later and the house stunk of curry. Turns out she had started moaning as soon as I went out that she was hungry so DP had given in and ordered Indian takeaway. She ate 2 popodoms, most of the pickle sauces, a full chicken korma with rice and half of her dad's korma (as he is still restricted on what he can eat) and she put some of DS's korma in a dish and put it in the fridge so she could eat it today.
I said to DP "Do you have any idea how many calories are in a korma?" and he said "well I'm sorry but I'm not going to make her starve".
If she wasn't so used to eating huge portions of food she wouldn't feel hungry after a normal meal.
If it was just him he was hurting fair enough but its his DD now too and from a personal point of view, I'm getting extremely pissed off that DS is starting to eat like them too.
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Sorry for posting this in two forums but I realise it may not fit with relationships once I'd read it back.
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Favorina · 15/04/2009 16:26
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