in saying that I am the worst mum. Ever.

[CharCharGaboriaInExcelsisDeo]

DD burnt herself tonight I'd put my bowl of soup on the table and was going to get DP's dinner. I thought I'd put my bowl out of reach but obviously it wasn't far enough over and she pulled it onto her hand She screamed so loud. DP and I put her hand under the tap, nearly knocking all the dishes off the draining board in the process (not that we were bothered, obv.) I bf her and she settled down a bit. Took her to the walk in and she's fine, thank God. It may blister but probably not, and I just have to put vaseline on it frequently. I feel like an absolute shitty stupid twat though Every time I hear the horrible, growly screaming in my head I start crying again. I couldn't feel guiltier. My poor little DD has a red burn on her little baby thumb and it's all my fault

[Trifle]

I'm no nurse but I think vaseline could be the worst thing you can do. I've heard that thick creams like that will keep the heat in and things like yogurt would be better. Dont use any more vaseline and probably wipe it off until you know for sure it is ok to use.

[kookykid]

If it makes you feel better, I left the stairgate open and my DD fell all the way from top to bottom. I felt absolutely AWFUL about it.
Sounds like your LO is going to be OK. Have a big glass of wine and forgive yourself!

[mckenzie]

you poor thing. You will remember this forever but your DD will forget it very very quickly. Honestly! DS got burnt with a freshly made cup of black coffee when he was 5 months old (my fault) but he doesn't remember it at all. Honestly.
You had the correct response and no long term harm was done. I know it's easy to say, but try not to beat yourself up about it.
Do you have wine?? Wine will help tonight I think

[SpirobranchusGiganteus]

Please don't feel bad. These things happen!
My mum ironed my hand when I was tiny and put it on the ironing board.

I know what you mean about re-hearing the scream. My DS was hit in the eye with a stick (my fault for allowing playfighting) a few months ago and stumbled through the front door lowing like a wounded stag. I still hear that.

[CharCharGaboriaInExcelsisDeo]

Thanks. Should I really not put vaseline on? That's what the doctor at the walk in told me to do.

I don't have wine but I do have cake. Well, when I say have, I mean had (already scoffed it.) I ran to Asda as soon as DD was asleep to fetch it. Needed some comfort food. I also ended up buying DD some guilt treats I'll definitely being more careful when I put hot food on the table now.

[HSMM]

I was just talking to a parent today, who was stressed about her DD always going after her hot drinks. I explained that children do not fully understand what "HOT" means, until they touch something HOT. We all hope this will not be a major event and I think you have to reconcile yourself with this being a 'learning experience'. She didn't get it on her face and will recover from it.

[christywhisty]

Don't put vaseline on it! Burns get infected really easily and vaseline should never be put on a fresh burn.
DD burnt her hand very badly needing a skin graft when she was 2. All my fault as I left the iron on before I rushed out to nursery with DS, when we came back she went into the living room and knocked it onto her hand You won't be the first mum, with a child that has an accident in the home and you won't be last, so don't beat yourself up about it.
Hope your DD is okay

[AnyFuckerForAMincePie]

no charchar, don't put vaseline (or butter) on a burn

put a dry dressing over the top and leave it be

[lingle]

I can beat that. We had a very similar incident. But my mum and I were so freaked out that we put the baby under the hot tap instead of the cold tap. oops.

[Trifle]

I've just googled 'putting vaseline on a burn' and it specifically stated:

Grease should never be applied to a fresh burn where the superficial part of the skin is missing. In addition to being occlusive, it is non-sterile, promotes bacterial proliferation on the surface of the wound, and may lead to infection.

I'm astonished that a doctor told you to do this.

[CharCharGaboriaInExcelsisDeo]

Bloody doctor telling me shite, grrr. She said she wasn't going to dress it as DD would just chew it and pull it off, and to put vaseline on instead. It hasn't broken the skin so I thought it'd be ok. Have just wiped it off, hope it hasn't done any more harm. I feel absolutely wiped out now.

[CharCharGaboriaInExcelsisDeo]

Trifle. Thank God it's only been on for half an hour!

[TipsyFairydifferentID]

She'll be fine, really. At least she now knows what HOT means.
Go get yourself a nice drink and come and sit down at your pooter whilst she either wanders around or conks out.

[Trifle]

Don't stress, it happens so easily, she won't remember, it's just one of those stupid things that happen occasionally through no fault of anyone's. She will get over it far more quickly than you will.

[CharCharGaboriaInExcelsisDeo]

Luckily she's in bed diffID, she was exhausted so just passed out as soon as I took her up. I think I might steal one of DP's beers, for medicinal effect only obv.

[kettlechip]

I do sympathise. Yesterday I actually managed to flip a kitchen knife out of my hand and down on to 15 month old ds2 while rushing to get his lunch ready. It was such a freak accident and even landed on him point down but somehow he avoided even a scratch. I felt physically sick for hours afterwards over what could have been. These things happen, don't beat yourself up.

[christywhisty]

Once it starts to heal, you do need to keep it moisturized to keep it from scarring, you can use vaseline then.
With DD we were told also to get her hand to move as much as possible to prevent keloid scarring and keep the skin as flexible as possible. Things like playdoh and swimming were good.
But DD's was all over the back of her hand so I doubt you will need to do anything like that.

[CharCharGaboriaInExcelsisDeo]

God kettlechip that must have been scary. Thank God it didn't hurt him.

[CharCharGaboriaInExcelsisDeo]

So when do I start with Vaseline? When it starts looking dry? It's only on her thumb and a tiny bit on her forefinger. She was so lucky, she could have poured the whole lot all over her head.

[lisad123]

I burnt dd1 with hot oil this time last year felt like the worst mother ever and spent every other day over christmas and new year getting dressings changed.
she wont rememeber it and it doesnt sound too big. Keep it clean and dry and it will be fine

[kettlechip]

It was horrible and left me shaken all day. I would never have forgiven myself if he'd been hurt. I remember also having a nasty fall on one of ds1's rolling toys while carrying a tiny ds2 and that involved an A&E trip. You're definitely not the worst mum while I'm around!!

You'll feel better tomorrow, I'd actually forgotten the knife incident until I read this. I will always be more careful around the knife block now though and you'll probably always keep your dd miles away from soup!!

[smallorange]

If it makes you feel better, I didn't strap DD2 into her high chair and she stood up and toppled out. We took her to A&E the next day and X-rays showed she had broken her collar bone. I feel sick thinking about it. Today I ran a bath and went to get something from the girl's bedroom. When I came back she was trying to get into the bath by herself. The water was too hot. Again I feel sick just thinking about what might have happened.

[SparklyBaubleFeast]

poor you, i'm sure it will be fine. and i am sure the vaseline woudl be ok, if the doctor advised, to moisterise the skin. assuming itis some time since it happened.
obivously not on a burn as soon as it happens.

[CharCharGaboriaInExcelsisDeo]

Thankyou. At least I'm not alone, it's a horrible feeling isn't it? I'm dreading telling my mum as I know she will judge me, just like she does whenever DD hurts herself. I'll leave the vaseline for tonight then I might start putting it on again tomorrow. It happened at about 6.

[oneyummymummy]

When my dd was very tiny, i fell asleep in the bed with her and woke up to a bang and a scream, where she had rolled off of me and onto the floor. I cried for hours of course she was fine and fell back to sleep as soon as i picked her up! But i never forgot and felt like a crap parent for even doing such a silly thing. But being a parent is one big learning curve and nobody is fully qualified no matter what they think!!!