to be angry that he's smoking eels.

(85 Posts)
Spidermama Mon 25-Aug-08 11:38:26

We have to go away on Wednesday for a week so the plumber can pull up our floorboards and completely replace our heating system. There's a great deal to do before this can happen as the house is in chaos.

He's in the garden smoking eels.

Yesterday we had some friends round from London who we hadn't seen for ages. I cleaned the house and made a cake.

Just when the house was begining to smell fresher he started a fire in the garden in order to smoke eels. I told him I wasn't having it. (I'm vegetarian and so were two of the three visitors.) So he stopped.

I thought we'd be together today sorting the house out. There's so much to do, but he's gone off in the garden to smoke fucking eels again.

Thing is, I don't think he should bring them home in the first place. He's an angler. He caught them. They've been in my fridge and freezer.

I'm very tolerant of meat in the fridge which he cooks for the kids ... but for me this is too much.

He says it's no different from buying a chicken and putting it in the fridge but I just feel this is taking it too far. It's like he's rubbing my nose in it.

AIBU?

why is your plumber keeping food at your house and using your garden to cook?

are you related?

is he your dh as well as your plumber grin

derelicte Mon 25-Aug-08 11:41:11

Smoking eels hey? That's a new one to me. Must be kind of tricky getting the rizlas round them.

Spidermama Mon 25-Aug-08 11:41:35

No the plumber isn't smoking eels.

DH is.

I have no beef with the plumber. Yet.

how do you smoke eels?

Spidermama Mon 25-Aug-08 11:43:13

Look smart arses. It's a straighforward question which requires one of two answers.

a) YABU or
b) YANBU

MmeLindt Mon 25-Aug-08 11:44:17

lol at the eel smoking plumber. I have to admit I thought "eels" was a word that I had not heard for roll up cigs or hash.

As to your question, I guess if he has caught the eels then he has to smoke them at some point?

Does he have to stand over them or can he bung them in the smokethingy (not quite sure how you smoke eels) and let them do their thing?

Spidermama Mon 25-Aug-08 11:44:38

He's lighting a fire on the barbecue and putting them on as far as I can tell. I'm trying not to look because the smell's enough to make me feel sick.

Seeing the unfamilair package wrapped in newspaper in the fridge and knowing it was some creature dh pulled out of the wild and murdered was pretty unpleasant too.

He's becoming more carniverous with time.

No, YANBU (infuriates me when DH does stuff like this)... but how do you smoke an eel?

2shoes Mon 25-Aug-08 11:45:49

yabu But as I a have a horror of eels I can understand the problem.

Oooooooooohhh!
I get it now!!

derelicte Mon 25-Aug-08 11:46:49

TBH I'm full of admiration for a man who can catch and smoke his own meals, so YABU. Also I'd rather have eels in the fridge than farmed chicken. So yes, YAB utterly U. Hope you're ashamed of yourself.

And gimme some of your cake.

pigleto Mon 25-Aug-08 11:47:23

I thought eels were endangered. So he is being unreasonable in catching them.

he's asserting his manliness

"Me catch eel for wifey, beat it about head and eat wiv vinegar" grin

yuk by the way, I can see your veggie - don't snog him later he will be all salty and slimey <boak>

Yabu - it's his fridge and garden too. But he should also be helping you with his share of getting the house ready.

Are the eels for the plumber?

nervousal Mon 25-Aug-08 11:48:08

YABU - its his fridge too.

Upwind Mon 25-Aug-08 11:48:38

I too felt puzzled as to why you were allowing your plumber smoke eels. If that was the case then YANBU.

But since it is your DH grin and it is his garden too, then YABU, he's caught them so they need to be smoked. If I were you I'd head out on some errands until he is done.

Gobbledigook Mon 25-Aug-08 11:48:53

Derelicte - you forgot the smile

grin

Spidermama Mon 25-Aug-08 11:49:02

Cake's gone derelict so ner.

I would only ever had organic, free range chicken in the fridge, and I do understand your point. In fact this is precisely dh's point. But as a vegetarian my gut reaction is horror that he can pluck a creature from the wild for his own entertainment then murder it an make as much smell as is possible.

It's rubbing my nose in it.

Thomcat Mon 25-Aug-08 11:50:25

Mmmmmmmmsmoked eels, how fab. I can understand how it might be irritating that there are other things to do but am too in awe of his eel smoking talents!

LolaTheShowgirl Mon 25-Aug-08 11:50:26

Ever since I saw The Little Mermaid I have a phobia of eels...yuck!

derelicte Mon 25-Aug-08 11:50:46

Ooooh I see, so the eels were going to do the plumbing, but your DH is smoking them and thus rendering them unfit to work. From the eels point of view HIBU.

smoking eels must be terribly bad for him-and a bad influence on the children. they'll be copying him you know-puffing away on their long dangly fishes...

derelicte Mon 25-Aug-08 11:51:13

eels'

Saturn74 Mon 25-Aug-08 11:51:55

YANBU re your DH smoking eels when the house needs sorting so you can go away.

Just the thought of the smell of smoked eels is making me feel a bit queasy.

I think the issues you have re his meat eating are a different matter.

Do you really think he's eating meat to wind you up?

I think you need to discuss that issue with him.

I can understand your reluctance to have all manner of creatures stored in your freezer.

I can understand your DH wanting to eat meat.

You need to find some middle ground.

Once he's helped you sort out the house. grin

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