I am a grumpy unreasonable moobag! Or am I?

[MaureenMLove]

DD (12) is in the park with various mates. The two in question, I know well enough and know their parents too. DD as just phoned me to say, 'X's parents have taken her brother bowling and for tea and will be back at about 8 and Y's parents are picking her up at 8.30 from here. Is that OK?' Ummm, well no, not really! I don't think I want someone's elses kids still in my house at 8.30 on a Saturday night. Apart from anything else, i'll have to feed them and that means having to make an effort, which I really diidn't want to do. We've been building/decorating all day and I could do with craking on and not having to worry about other people.

Basically, I'm stuffed, because dd has already cleared this with the other parents by saying, 'oh, my mum won't mind!' cheers love! I'm not about to leave either of them stranded, so looks like I'm lumbered with them!

I'm being unreasonable, aren't I?

[TwoToTango]

I don't think you are being unreasonable, I think the other parents should have checked with you first - you could have had plans to go out.

[Twiglett]

yes you are, because you don't mind really .. whack a load of chips in the oven .. stick 'em in front of a DVD

(I agree by the way .. irritating .. but how lovely to be the house they congregate in .. that's what I'm aiming for )

[MaureenMLove]

dh thinks I am. But then, he's going to the pub in a minute, so he's not going to care!

[Ses15]

It seems that DD hasn't thought about the impact and "assumed" you will automatically be able to lay on hospitality for them.

If I were you I'd go with it this time but don't do anything OTT. Once they've gone I'd have a gentle chat with DD about checking with you first! Maybe stress that her friends are welcome but there may be times when it's not convenient and you'd like her to check with you first in future.

I don't think you're being unreasonable but you may on this occassion have to go with it.

[MaureenMLove]

Yeah. I know. I think I'm just pissed with DD for not clearing it with me first. She seems to run the whole social network these days, we barely see her and when we do, there's always a plan to have to fit in with!

I'll tell you what, its a damn sight easy to adjust your life with a newborn, than it is with a teenager! It was supposed to get easier!

[MaureenMLove]

Yes, I will be having a word! Don't get me wrong, I love having them all here. I'd rather they were here than wandering the streets. I'm sure I cooked for them last weekend too!

[Kbear]

Send them to the chippy. Open the wine Mo, you sound like you deserve it after the 93 boxes you had to check!