Now before anyone gets annoyed this boy clearly has learning difficulties he is at least 13,he swears,he shouts and generally causes problems when the children all play out together.
we live opposite a football pitch where all the children play it is only lately that my ds aged 14 and 12 play out there because the 'bigger boys' tended to take it over and fights were frequent.......until then the local children were content to play in gardens or the street or in our case our home,several children dont invite this boy to join in and i have always encourged my children to let everyone join in so recently this boy has been 'playing'- in playing hes verbally abused lots of people,tried to fight them and thrown bricks at dogs so i understand why they didnt want him to play (this is none of my business im not out there playing and so its up to the boys who are playing to sort it out)well this boy seems to have some reason to think he should know where my ds2 is at all times ,my dh works nights and frequently the boy bangs on the door or window and shouts where is ?
i usually go out and say ds2 is wherever,plese dont bng on the door or window like that knock gently and i will come.
this can happen upto 6-7 times a day sometimes til as late as 9.30pm,ds2 will go to the door and say hes not playing its quite late and not to bang like that at which point hes met with profanity.
recently ive told my boys to avoid this boy not to get caught up in conversation with him and when they come in to say to all the kids dont knock on for me cos my mum doesnt like it (so as not to single this child out)
dh was going to work last week at gone 9pm this boy was lay on our path and dh told him to get home before his mum started looking for him (at which point he realised the boy had in his hands branches of the bushes in our garden),on friday he was riding a bike with a wonky seat and no brakes the wrong way up a main road !!!
well on saturday and sunday weve had something thrown at our windows at about 8pm last night i saw who did it as did my dh...dh was taking the dog out and i was closing the curtains......immediately our boys ran after him(u can understand why) i quickly followed scared there might be fight dh followed too......as i approch them this boy maes like hes going to hit me clearly he was scared hed been caught so i said youre really naughty and now i have to tell your mum he continued flailing around and grabbed at me(my ds1 and 2 were there but dh warned them to stay out of it ,im a nursery nurse and knew or hoped he wouldnt carry out his threat) so we are in the st this boy abusing me, a woman with bottle of wine in her hand shouts whats going on? i said i need to see this boys mum at which point i was met with ermmmmm hostility the boys mum quickly came lots of shouting ensued and the main point being was that he has autism and was scared .....whilst i understand a great deal about autism i dont live with it and i think i was very tolerant (these women were spitting in the street as they shouted)the row between them subsided when i mentioned maybe i should just call the police as now i was being threatened by women in the street(i wsnt worried just shocked lol)the dad of the boy in question then assured us he would make his son stay away from our home - but surely this boy needs closer supervision if he is as bad as they say?
what a pollaver on a easter sunday.
the general point being made was because he has autism he can do what he wants my argument being well if he doesnt understand what he did ws wrong why did he react like tht and if he really has no concept of right and wrong he needs looking after not just being left out to play.
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windygalestoday · 24/03/2008 12:43
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