to think this was a bit insensitive, or am I being oversensitive

[bigfatbump]

I haven't posted on this thread before, so here goes. Might be a bit long...

I post on another parenting board, as does a rl friend. We had our first dcs at the same time, then she had a mc, followed by a dd after a fair while of ttc. A year or so after, I had a mmc. Dh and I have been ttc again since then (18 months)with no luck. I haven't publicised this fact.

Now she is pg again and I am happy for her, if a bit jealous. She has chatted about her pg on many occasions, again this is fine. BUT Our board has a diet thread running where 3 or 4 of us have been keeping track of our weight loss since the new year, every so often someone else will pop on to offer congrats or support. Last night I posted my 2lb weight loss. She posted immediaately after me with 'I've put on 7lb well done'
I was quite upset by this and it's made me feel low all day.

Now I know I'm being over sensitive, but aibu in thinking this was a bit off?

[WinkyWinkola]

Why is she posting on a diet thread if she is pg?

I think it is a bit strange if it is a diet thread.

But I would ignore it not least because you can't really make assumptions about her motives, if she has any.

If she's insensitive, then she's an oaf and you don't need to take notice. But then she doesn't know you are TTC, does she?

[dolally]

is it possibly you might have crossed posts i.e. you both pressed the "post" button at the same time neither knowing the other was about to post?

and if that's not the case, I would says she's just being thoughtless, doesn't even realise how bad you're feeling at the mo...

She doesn't even know you're ttc? You're just a bit sensitive at the mo imo.

Good luck, it will happen sooner or later!!

[bigfatbump]

She knows we want another baby but I haven't talked about our lack of success to her directly - but I havedefinitely told her over the past months that we would like another.

Her post was defnitely in response to mine.

I am definitely being sensitive, but.

[WinkyWinkola]

You've got to take her as a thoughtless twerp then. If you think of her in any other way, you're going to start disliking her. You still want to be friends, right? If not, then there are better ways of letting go of friendships then brewing bad feeling.

[lilacclaire]

If she doesn't know about your lack of success then i think you are being over sensitive, she is probably thinking 'lucky cow' over you losing 2lbs and not trying to rub your face in the fact she is pregs and your not, iyswim.
I think your weight loss was at the front of her mind when she posted, and your not being pregnant was at the front of your mind when you read it.
If that makes any sense at all !
Good luck at ttc x

[dolally]

I have to say, big, that whenever I was pg with my three, it never ever occurred to me that any of my friends might have been suffering. Probably thoughtless of me!

Don't take it too much to heart, if she's a good friend, give her the benefit of the doubt...unless you really think she did it deliberately?