not to expect my sister to be proud of her dd breaking all the xmas pressies I got her.

[Jenkeywoo]

For xmas we got my dd who is 3.5 and my neice who is nearly 4 the same thing. Disney princess Cinderella's palace, a Cinderella doll and a Prince Charming doll to go with it. My dd plays with it every day and everything is still fine. On the day we gave it my neice, within 5 minutes she had bent Prince Charmings legs over his head till they snapped off. At the time my sister and BIL both laughed and said 'ah, she's our little basher, always breaking stuff'. .

Anyway, just got back from seeing my sister today and I noticed the little bed from the palace was lying on the lounge floor broken - when I commented on it my sister said 'Yes, she's managed to break both Cinderella and the Prince and most of the furniture now' and started to laugh. I was taken aback and said that's a bit of a shame when my niece piped up 'Yes but it's not my fault, they weren't well made'!!!! . This is so obviously out of the mouth of her mum or dad and I am really really pissed off. I think it's really poor form to be proud of your child breaking toys and if they do at least have the good sense to remove broken toys before the gift giver visits.

So AIBU?

[discoverlife]

I don't think your being unreasonable, but I'm not sure how you could tackle this except to give your niece a decorated brick for her birthday.
It really is bad form especially as the proper Cinderella stuf isn't cheap nor cheaply made.
Maybe a joke about not buying your niece a kitten as she would probably try to bend the legs off it as well, may give them an idea that nieces behaviour should be checked.

[NAB3wishesfor2008]

YANBU.

Don't buy her anything expensive or get her clothes until her parents can learn to teach her to respect her toys.

[welshdeb]

I would be very cross about breaking your dd toys. Its not hard to teach your children to respect other people's property, whether you think its rubbish or not.

If it had been any of my dc who had done this I owuld be mortified and if it had been deliberate would have offered to replace it ....not laugh.

With respect to her own toys to some extent they are now hers to do with as she pleases, but again its very disrespectful of you.

However if she was mine I would be very unhappy with them breaking their toys (whether they were presents from other people or ones I had bought) and I would not be excusing it easily unless it was totally accidental.

[Niecie]

YANBU - tell her you won't be letting DD play with her Cinderella stuff when your niece comes over to your house. You don't want that broken too.

She needs to be taught a little bit of respect and how to treat things. Accidents happen but they shouldn't be condoned by laughing.

[welshdeb]

sorry, I didnt mean to imply your present was rubbish it sounds very nice.

[mumeeee]

YANBU. I agree with NAB3wishes. Don't buy her anything expensive until she is taught to look after her toys.

[LIZS]

Disrespectful. especially to be so blatant . Buy her something less interesting and expensive but more indestructible next time .

[southeastastra]

i have a nephew who manages to break unbreakable things. we have to hide toys away before he comes round.

[dustystar]

YANBU. My ds is a complete nightmare. My family joke that he should be used as the benchmark for toy manufacturers - if ds can't break it then its as good as unbreakable However while we do make light of it when he's not there, we always tell him off if he willfully breaks things or doesn't treat his possessions and presents with care. It shows a complete lack of respect and gratitude.

[mm22bys]

Maybe your sister laughed out of embarrassment?