hi all, does anyone else feel that the massive life change that comes with parenting has only happened to them whilst hubby's life continues as normal!!!
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we both wanted kids!, dh showed v.little intrest during pregnancy (but tbh i thought fair enough because its hard to be excited if nothing is happening to you).
when our son was born he did nothing - at all - no time off work to help. bottle fed from 1 month but dh did no feeds unless i begged for a break ( then acted like a fuckin martyr!) he changed his first nappy once ds was 6 months old and currently does one a week. he does work but i also work part time as well as being the secretary for "his" own buisiness.
i thought things were improving, as ds is getting older and more interactive (13mo now) hubby is playing with him more and now gives him his last bottle before bed. but recently he has started insisting that he go out at least 2 nights a week ( i was fine with once a week - comes back blind drunk withought fail i may add) but twice is pushing my limit. i dont mind the going out but its the drunken antics (and increasingly angry drunken antics) im sick of. he says that he has always been like this and i shouldnt want him to change. now but my life is changed beyond recognition and i feel that he wont take on his responsibility and grow up - surely new parents just have to accept that they go out less dont they? he recons i should be grateful because he dosent have any other hobbies that take his time and money but im resenting him ( gosh thats hard to admit!) i havent ridden my horse in 2 months (dh will not look after ds during the day on his own!)and i feel im losing my identity. our sex life is gone - because im storing up all this ill feeling towards him - what has happened to us? we have been together 12 yrs i never expexted this
any advice - or flippin well giving me hell for being so pathetic - much appreciated
sorry for long rant but sooooo wanted to tell someone - anyone!
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i throught parenting was a joint effort!!!!!!!
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Horsiemummy · 29/12/2007 20:55
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