To focus energy on my little family.

[LovelyBath77]

It seems like all around are people needing stuff. Extended family, friends, (family of origin are difficult and NC with mum). fed up with drama. Feel like with two children, health issues (both me and DH) self-employment, there is literally not much space and energy for supporting these people as well. It is good to have a little space for some self-care and that would go otherwise. i feel the guilt though. Is it Ok just to focus energy on your own husband and children and yourself?

[ellesbellesxxx]

Since getting pregnant, I have literally been focused on my husband and our forthcoming twins.
Even this summer, going through IVF I was running around after people/doing favours... now, not so much. It is interesting who I have noticed I was always travelling to see as now I am struggling to drive for long, I just haven't seen them!

Definitely just focus on your little family xx

[LovelyBath77]

Thanks Elles. It seems to have got worse the demands from outside since having my own family, or it could be how it feels as I am busier and noticing it more. I think some people don't understand, or forget, how overwhelming it can be. It is not easy at times to say no ut I am learning to do some more and it is liberating.

[user1472419718]

If your energy and time is limited, do focus it on your family who matter most, but don't be surprised if you find out who your true friends are (not that this is necessarily a bad thing).

Your real friends will continue to keep in touch, support you, and be there when you have the space and energy to see them. Other people may not, but that probably isn't such a great loss.