To think the stay at home parent should take on the family admin jobs (or at least some of it)

(6 Posts)
MadJeffBarn Fri 25-Nov-16 17:29:01

Dh is (voluntary) sahd. It's fine, I earn more than him. I'm out the home 3-4 long days a week, with the occasional day at the library for uni work. He's great with the kids, good with cleaning, okay with cooking. I'm happy to do my fair share of household stuff and childcare when I'm off. Only thing that bugs me is the family admin jobs. I do the bills, budgets, family stuff, kids calenders, kids parties, birthdays, Christmas.. today he forwarded me a text from the school, asking us to ring them because of an unauthorised absence. She had a hospital appointment which dh said he told them about. Got back, asked if he rang them, he said no? Thought you were going to. Ugh. No. You got the text, why can't you call them? Baring in mind I was with the eldest and youngest was having a nap. It's always left to me. I made him call, and he seemed totally flummoxed at why I sighed and rolled my eyes even though I've asked him to take a few of these things on. He gets the school texts for a reason!
Aibu?

SheldonCRules Fri 25-Nov-16 17:30:42

Definitely, the non working adult should be doing all the housework and admin.

AppleMagic Fri 25-Nov-16 17:32:22

I think you need to try a different store then!

witsender Fri 25-Nov-16 17:32:50

I think all is a bit of a piss take, but in this instance it makes most sense for the admin to be done by the one home during working hours, when most of this stuff needs doing.

AppleMagic Fri 25-Nov-16 17:34:10

Oops wrong thread!

I agree OP, I'm a SAHP and do the vast majority of family admin. Unless you work in a very relaxed environment or he is looking after very "challenging" DC, he should have a lot more opportunity than you to make calls during the day.

Noodoodle Fri 25-Nov-16 17:47:17

I agree. Anything that can/needs to be done in daytime hours should be done by the sahp where possible. Having said that though I'm in the same predicament. Dh doesn't even do "banking" and I keep track of all the bills, money transferring, making appointments/organising who will take dc's to them...I work ft and dh is sahp. Seems to think it's easier for me somehow or something, like I just knew how to do these things instead of having to "learn" how these things are done!

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