I will try not to make this too long.
Some background I've known my best friend for over 40 yrs.we didon't really get on that we'll when we were kids.she would hide from me if I called for her especially if she had another friend there.that sort of thing.
Fast forward to when my 2 kids were growing up i got to know her again& we became close friends seeing each other with the kids every wkend when my marriage broke up.she got me into drinking& it became a prob for me.I was never very good in social situations& drinking helped at least to start with.anyway few yrs ago I met my now partner& since then we've had a child& I've stopped the drinking all together really.I don't spend half as much time with friend as I used to.she hardly bothers with my child never comes to visit us but then very rarely did. I always went to hers.
Anyway I'm now a nanny to 2 beautiful girls who I love dearly along with my daughter their mum.few days ago we had a disagreement as she let her eldest Dd age 6 have her ears pierced& I told her I didnt agree with it as I think she's too young yet.I'd never tell my granddaughter I didn't like it obviously.
My daughter got angry with me about it made an argument out of it. ( shes not afraid to tell me her opinion on anything she doesnt agree with!)anyway I said we will have to agree to disagree& left it like that.I never heand anything else from her then couple of hrs later she put a foto on social media of her youngest Dd who's a yr old fast sleep with a stick on earring on!! Now I know my best friend& friends sis were with them when my gd had this done& knowing what she's like I know it was probably her idea for my daughter to put the stick on earring on cuz she knew it would get to me&they were expecting a reaction.they didon't get it! I just liked the photo& left it like that but I was fuming at how childish& pathetic it was just to try getting a reaction!! I'm entitled to my opinions same as they or anyone else is! !
My partner thinks the same.I haven't said anything to either my dd or my friend& my dd& I are now ok again.in fact I'm buying my gd a jewellery box& couple of pairs ofor earrings for Christmas.
It's just that this best friend had a manipulative influence over me yrs ago& now it seems shes doing same with my dd.
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babayjane67 · 11/11/2016 10:52
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