What would you do?

(8 Posts)
Etjls Fri 28-Oct-16 19:12:41

When I got pregnant with our youngest he decided that would be the moment he went off sleeping with the local tramp, this girl knew full well about me and our children but that didn't put her off (in fact she began posting pictures of them all over the Internet for my benefit), the whole time he was declaring his never ending love to me and swore she was out the picture, however it later transpired that not only was he still carrying on with this girl but his whole family welcomed her into the home even got her xmas presents but yet these very same people 'love me like family' and are 'always there for me' (she was even invited round days before I gave birth) now my issue is how can these people who apparently love me and my children have helped facilitate our family being destroyed? I hate them all with a passion for it and it makes me so angry thinking him and her did that to me and wrecked my pregnancy (he was also sneaking her around my old property I was kind enough to let him stay in when I moved) me and him are over forever as I could never go back to someone who did what he did to me, but how do I get over this burning anger? It's been over a year and everyday I think of it x

SundialShadow Fri 28-Oct-16 19:15:08

LTB and his b@st@rd family too.

Gbean Fri 28-Oct-16 19:15:51

Just bin them and know they're worse off for not having you in their life. They're toxic

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad Fri 28-Oct-16 19:17:58

How horrid .. I'm so sorry this has happened to you but ...
the only way to get over burning anger is to create a new life. One much better than the one you had with your ex.
To use it as an opportunity to make the best of you and to understand that he is a dick his family are disingenuous and you are much better off without them.

Borodin Fri 28-Oct-16 19:20:33

Thanks for asking!

You're very angry, and I don't blame you, but please be as careful as you can.

I'd like to help, but do you want help? I don't want to be an excuse for you to break things, break yourself, break any chance that you have of being happy.

You can become happy on your own, with help.

You need to say what help you think you'd like for us to get started.

Please be careful with yourself.

c3pu Fri 28-Oct-16 19:21:43

Cut them out as much as realistically possible.

Replace with better people if at all possible, if not then being alone is still preferred.

Sweets101 Fri 28-Oct-16 19:23:03

You've every right to be angry.
In time you'll probably realise you no longer care, as they are fuckwits and mean nothing to you
flowers sorry you've had such a horrible time

Etjls Fri 28-Oct-16 19:26:34

I need help getting over what was done to me and my children I know the world has bigger problems but it has seriously affected me, I feel like cutting my children from their lives (leaving me alone isn't an option for him) but then I'd be using them as a weapon etc would it be ott to go counseling?

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