I need help with feeling less guilt and a bit more selfishness for me and my family.
We're just back from spending a couple of days in London, just the four of us. This doesn't often happen because we either holiday with DH's family (In summer) or have no spare cash for trips (until fairly recently). I was looking forward to a couple of days back home sorting the house/kids until it's back to school and work next week but now i just feel riddled with guilt.
Once we got back yesterday BIL and SIL sent us messages basically asking why we didn't let them know we were down south, we could have met up, stayed with them etc. They live fairly close to but not inside the city. They often make a point of saying we need to go down and visit their new house. (They moved 2 years ago, we haven't been down since a bit before then).
But honestly, when I booked this break it was for the four of us to spend time together doing touristy things, on holiday together. I didn't think of it as a chance to visit with them - it didn't cross my mind AND they're actually coming north to visit here in the next fortnight as DHs parents live close to us too.
I don't appreciate the guilt trip but it's eating me up, I feel bad They didn't even know we were down there - I assumed the ILs would have told them (MIL certainly tells them most other things!) but I reckon they didn't mention it because they thought we should be visiting with them too. Now it seems like a big conspiracy and I honestly didn't mean to exclude them, I just wanted to put my family first and for us to have a little break on our own.
Maybe I should have chosen somewhere else to go, maybe we should have just changed our plans and visited them. I'm starting to wish we'd just stayed at home tbh.
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yellowDahlia · 14/10/2016 12:36
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