AIBU TO GO SEE THE TEACHER?

[reddotmum]

My youngest (of 4) is really worrying me at the minute. He started primary one recently and consistently told me he was being bullied and so convincing was he that I went and spoke to the teacher. (A parent approached me in the playground to tell me her daughter had noticed DS being bullied in playground so I know something was happening!) she said she would keep and eye and at the same time told me he was not mixing well with other kids. Choosing activities he could do himself. He constantly talks about being picked on and tells me no one likes him. Outside school he goes to Football lessons and tonight he refused to play because a girl had taken the ball he was playing with. No amount of talking could persuade him back in the room so he ended up sitting on his own at the side and I brought him straight home with no treats as I was so cross with him.

My third son has Autism and I think as they are very close in age the youngest has some learned behaviour. He also looses his temper very easily and no amount of talking or persuasion will talk him down. I just don't know where to start! Is it acceptable to speak with his teacher about how to deal with this behaviour.

[Swirlingasong]

Absolutely. I think the teacher needs to know about all this and your son needs you to talk to them.

[potentialqualms]

Yes, of course it is. At our school he would be given an opportunity to chat with our SEAL (Social and Emotional Aspects of Learning) leader which is usually enough to help them see how they can help themselves but will also identify any problems there are with other children. Occasionally, children will be referred to a counsellor, after discussion/agreement with parents.

[youarenotkiddingme]

Of course see the teacher. Ask how they are encouraging him to join in and agree to both do/say the same things for continuity.

[reddotmum]

Thanks for that.

OH thinks I'm being hysterical and reactionary. Typical of me apparently.