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AIBU?

To ask neighbour not to smoke in his garden?

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Rattusn · 03/10/2016 21:01

He smokes weed and it reeks. I have the windows open for ventilation, and even on the opposite side of the house I feel like I am getting passively stoned. As I'm pregnant this is most definitely not on my to do list!

We have a good relationship with them, but I have no idea how to broach the subject. If it was cigarettes it wouldn't be an issue, but this stuff is pungent! It's a daily habit too..

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MsJudgemental · 03/10/2016 21:04

Just tell him that, as you're pregnant, you're feeling the effects of passive smoking drifting through the windows and would he mind smoking away from your house? No need to draw (!) attention to what he's smoking.

Threebedsemii · 03/10/2016 21:07

Well yabu to ask someone not todo something in their own garden, yes. That's not say he won't feel so awkward and embarrassed when you ask that he agrees though...

MissyMoooo · 03/10/2016 21:08

If he's doing it outside and in his own garden it's his business. I would imagine if you did tell him he would tell you where to go and ask you to close your windows if you don't like it!

bumsexatthebingo · 03/10/2016 21:08

Could you not just open the windows at the front of the house? Unless you aren't in the UK you must be bloody freezing having them all open. It's October!

BlurtonOnKites4eva · 03/10/2016 21:09

If they seem friendly just tell him you can't stand the smell of weed and it's getting in your house, I think most people who smoke weed regularly don't realise how much it stinks.

It's then up to him to go for a little walk away from your house when he wants a smoke, I'm sure he will.

Rattusn · 03/10/2016 21:11

I'm in London. It's pretty warm here!

They aren't open all night, but the kitchen at the back of the house does need good ventilation as there is a damp issue.

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Amalfimamma · 03/10/2016 21:13

A call to the peeler old sort that out for you......

Amalfimamma · 03/10/2016 21:14

to the peelers should

Rattusn · 03/10/2016 21:15

I don't open the ground floor windows at the front of the house due to safety (I have good reason for this)

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Oly5 · 03/10/2016 21:15

I think he should be able to smoke whatever he wants on his own garden? Just shut your windows when he's out there

Rattusn · 03/10/2016 21:23

oly the problem is I don't know when he will smoke. Unless I sit in the kitchen all day peering over the wall.

Maybe I could ask for advance warning? But that sounds a bit odd!

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PickAChew · 03/10/2016 21:28

If it was tobacco, I'd say YWBU.

The smell of weed would have made me puke, when I was pregnant. Doing that in his general direction would probably stop him, sharpish.

Or more rationally, yeah, quietly shop him. He's got a bit of a cheek smoking it out in the open. I'm sure a quiet call as an anonymous neighbour who always detects a strong whiff of the stuff when passing his house would do the trick.

AveEldon · 03/10/2016 21:28

He's smoking weed
If he was smoking crack would it be okay?
Neither are legal in the UK

mycatwantstokillme1 · 03/10/2016 21:31

Weed might be illegal but I don't think the police care - one of my neighbours in the next block of flats to me said her neighbours smoked it so much the smell actually came into her flat via the communal corridor and the police did nothing. Which I think is a liberty cos the smell is disgusting!

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 03/10/2016 21:31

I'm sure a quiet call as an anonymous neighbour who always detects a strong whiff of the stuff when passing his house would do the trick.

Unfortunately I'might not sure the police would do much.

ClopySow · 03/10/2016 21:36

Unless he's burning a massive grass bonfire, yiu are not getting passively stoned.

Rattusn · 03/10/2016 21:37

I live in a rough part of London. The police didn't care when I reported the local drug den. In fact the community police officers said they already knew about it. (Not surprisingly as it was bloody obvious). This was within meters of a primary school too. So no, I know the police wouldn't be interested.

I don't want to report him either, I just don't want to passively smoke it. It gives me a headache.

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Lanaorana1 · 03/10/2016 21:47

Shut your window.

FairNotFair · 03/10/2016 21:48

YANBU. I had NDNs who smoked weed in their garden. DS2's room is at the back of the house... there's something a bit off about a 3yo's bedroom that reeks of weed. It was a hot summer so it was way too warm to keep his window shut. A quiet word to the landlord sorted it out.

Rattusn · 03/10/2016 21:53

fair my dd's room is also at the back, but I keep the windows closed regardless of temperature as I can't have it wafting directly into her room. The seal on the windows is not perfect though, and there is still an odour sometimes. It's really difficult.

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Unicorn1981 · 03/10/2016 21:58

We used to live next door to people who smoked weed. The smell would come into our house through an air brick in between. I would open the window then the smell would come in that way! It was horrible. Once we went away for a few days and when we got back the entire house reeked of it.

Grumpyaboutchristmas · 03/10/2016 22:21

Have a quiet word, be polite, ask him to pop further down the garden if possible, plead extra sensitive pregnancy nose and vomit symptoms (it's like period talk to men, makes them uneasy and likely to agree to anything). London gardens are often tiny though so you'll be pushing the issue elsewhere so maybe ask him to forewarn you instead if that's not practical - buy him a whistle! But don't shop him or tell LL, esp not before you've asked him directly. That's just mean and unneighbourly. Plus winter here very soon and issue pushed back to next spring - you can air rooms through winter when his garden is smoke free but won't need them open much .

Shinyshoes2 · 03/10/2016 22:28

Yabu it's his garden he can do what he likes in it .
What next ... Music too loud it will wake the baby ... Bonfire and fireworks on Guy Fawkes ... How long is it for ?? 10 minutes at a time
Id say shut your window if you're that bothered

WorraLiberty · 03/10/2016 22:34

I know the smell isn't nice and I get it must make you feel sick, especially when pregnant.

But you're not getting stoned and you're not passively smoking it.

dybil · 03/10/2016 22:42

Yeah, whilst it is theoretically possible to get passively stoned, it takes a lot of smoke in a small, unventilated space over a long period of time for there to be even a small effect.

I don't think it'd be unreasonable to politely ask him to stop (if it was tobacco I'd say YABU, but obviously weed isn't legal in the UK so that changes things a bit).

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