Depressing subject, sorry, but understandably I guess I'm struggling to be objective on this issue...
My mum died in January after 3 years illness. She married her partner of 5 years (she was divorced from my dad) following diagnosis.
Her new husband was/is fine but never really embraced her children (3 of us) dogs or grandchildren (2 both mine). On her death he organised the funeral (as 'they had discussed what she wanted'). My siblings and I were able to add a few elenents of our own but only on asking. It was clear he was surprised and not particularly happy that we wanted a say.
Therefore I'm a daft cow for not making it clear right at the beginning that i wanted a say in what went on the gravestone. On asking (7 months later) if he's made arrangements it appears he got it all on order. There's nothing offensive about the wording ('beloved wife and mother') but I guess I'd like 'grandmother' added and perhaps a quote from a favourite poet or something. Just to have a input I guess since we her children have been around a lot longer than him. She's buried and he will be sharing a plot which complicates it further I guess.
Do I kick up a fuss as sensitively as possible? Or give in and leave be?
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Nevertimeforcake · 19/09/2016 18:07
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