In thinking the doctor was a bit rude

(21 Posts)
windmillsofyourmind Fri 16-Sep-16 17:16:34

I was in GPs surgery this morning, he'd gone away so a stand in doctor <if that's the correct term) saw me. She did a blood test and then said she was arranging X-rays and said I'd probably need a minor op.As I was leaving I just asked if she could tell me if the op was done as a day case, she said yes,. I then asked if it would be done at my local hospital. She had the door open and kind of gently pushed me through and said "bye" in a kind of long drawn out way. shock

My first thought was "well that's shut me up", but what do you all think, was she being a bit rude? Btw there weren't any more patients to see, I'm just wondering if she just felt impatient with me for asking a couple of questions.

CrohnicallyAspie Fri 16-Sep-16 17:23:56

Yes, it's rude, but she said you'd 'probably' need an op, presumably you need the X-ray results first. perhaps she wasn't expecting you to ask questions about something that hadn't been confirmed yet? And combined with being a stand in, maybe she didn't actually know the details?

She could have been a bit nicer though, maybe said something like 'we'll cross that bridge when we come to it' rather than pushing you out the door!

SuperPug Fri 16-Sep-16 17:25:09

Yes, that's rude. If I was told I was going to have a minor operation, I'd probably be quite anxious and ask the same questions as you. She sounds patronising and even if she was in a rush, that doesn't sound necessary.
In our local surgery we have some brilliant doctors and others who act like you're bothering them if you've booked a valid appointment.

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Fri 16-Sep-16 17:34:19

Well I don't know, one of those situations where you need both sides to the story really

RainyDayBear Fri 16-Sep-16 17:36:46

Could she have maybe misheard you?

Scarydinosaurs Fri 16-Sep-16 17:43:14

I think she misheard you- that would be really rude!

Trojanhorsebox Fri 16-Sep-16 17:46:57

If you're having x-rays and blood tests, presumably you need to go back for a review with all the results and at that point the need for further tests, operations etc would be discussed in light of your results.

She probably felt it was unnecessary to spend time discussing a hypothetical situation that may never occur. If you were asking these questions as you were leaving, presumably your appointment was over and she didn't want to get into a long debate and end up running late.

How rudely or politely it was managed, none of us can say. There are ways of politely winding up an interview, but some people are resistant to the cues and do actually need a "let's leave things there for now" with a big handshake, hat plonked on head, door open and to be gently escorted out of the room or they'd still be there three hours later - I'm sure you're not one of those people, but they do exist.

Good luck with it all.

Fortybingowings Fri 16-Sep-16 17:49:04

How did you know there were no more patients to see?

expatinscotland Fri 16-Sep-16 17:57:31

Pretty rude, yeah.

Musicaltheatremum Fri 16-Sep-16 18:01:24

She might have had house calls to go on plus loads of admin from the morning surgery(or afternoon) a surgery can leave you with 45-60minutes admin to do depending on how many people we have seen. It's not great to hurry people out your room but there will have been times when we have all done this inadvertently. (Or maybe she was dying for a pee 😂)

missyB1 Fri 16-Sep-16 18:09:04

Yes it was rude. She shouldn't have raised the possibility of an operation if she didn't want to answer basic questions about it. She should really have just asked you to make an appointment to come back and discuss the results.

Lesson for her - don't speculate.

DailyFaily Fri 16-Sep-16 18:26:05

It's rude regardless of how busy or not she was, she should have answered your question or said 'it would be better to discuss that when you come back for the results'. But the fact she didn't acknowledge your question at all does make me wonder whether she just didn't hear you and the drawn out 'bye' was just an absent minded, not paying attention, kind of thing.

windmillsofyourmind Fri 16-Sep-16 18:29:28

forty beacause i was the last one in the waiting room and her receptionist locked the doors. I do appreciate if she was very busy but I was just shocked to hear that "bye" the way she said it. I hadnt kept her long, I can't have been in her surgery longer than 5 minutes. Far quicker than her other patients I'd say.

AmeliaJack Fri 16-Sep-16 18:33:39

It does sound like she was a bit rude windmills but if it was the end of the day she might have been desperate to pick up a child/catch a train/go to the loo/let the other staff away/quickly get in a phone call before somewhere closed.

She could have obviously handled it better, but we all have off days don't we?

RubbleBubble00 Fri 16-Sep-16 18:34:09

Could she have thought u said 'is that u done for the day'

Hellochicken Fri 16-Sep-16 18:35:13

she's called a locum

if she managed to fit taking a blood test and ordering xrays, she would have used up most of the 10 mins allocated per patient.

it is hard sometimes to finish talking to someone and as a locum she cant necessarily say "come back and see me" if she is only filling in. and it sounds rude to say "ask Dr Usualdoctor any further questions" or "I have no more time". She cant have ended consultation well as you wouldnt be on mumsnet if she had!

Hellochicken Fri 16-Sep-16 18:36:05

sorry x-post, well she must have been fast!

sycamore54321 Fri 16-Sep-16 18:37:23

It does sound a little rude from what you say. She may be rude or she may have misheard you and not realised you wanted an answer.

On a lighter note, I'm reminded of the old saying that it is only "minor surgery" when it is happening to someone else smile

windmillsofyourmind Fri 16-Sep-16 18:55:39

Maybe that's just her way, I don't know. I was in a fair bit of pain though at the time so perhaps I was being overly sensitive.

AmeliaJack Fri 16-Sep-16 19:14:06

I hope you feel better soon windmills flowers

windmillsofyourmind Fri 16-Sep-16 19:42:15

Thankyou Amelia

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