I have a friend I've known for years and we're part of a group of friends. Our kids are the same age (5 and 3). She is kind, thoughtful, generous and, when on her own without the kids, she's fun loving and generally really good company. I'm really fond of her. The problem is she is utterly blinkered when it comes to her children and it's driving me up the wall. They can do no wrong in her eyes. Examples include calling our friends child a liar when her dd1 and friends child came downstairs saying each had pushed the other, telling off all our children when her child cries but never chastising her own kids for the same behaviour, making everyone move around the table just so her daughter could sit next to another child at a restaurant and countless examples of making a really big deal when her child has a bump or there is an argument (think "oh my god, it's really bad, x has just pushed dd on the trampoline. It's alright poppet, Mummy's here, that's so naughty of x. I'll make her come off so you can play"). Variations of this happen almost every time we meet up with the kids (once or twice a week). It's making me and my friends uncomfortable and people are starting to talk about her (compare awkward stories when they've seen her) which I think is wrong; we're grown women, we should be able to deal with this. I also think her eldest daughter now knows she can tell tales because she gets so much attention from it. I'm worried that if we don't deal with this now, as our children grow older they will feel the unfairness of it. Alternatively, there's going to be an incident and then an argument with the adults which no-one wants. The kids are all great, all good friends with each other but, like kids do, have days where they don't get on. AIBU to ask for your advice about how to raise this with my otherwise lovely friend in a way that won't be friendship ending? Thank you!
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