I'm 36, married with 2 children, however feel like I'm still a child
My parents act as if I've never grown up, they live their lives through my children and I've often been made to feel like my children's nanny. They have an opinion on everything, and if DH and I decide to not use their opinion then it's always told you so etc.
They invite themselves round whenever they want, it's never "we're thinking of coming, will you be in?" It's always "we're coming"
Mum pushes her medical opinions on me and if I don't agree she gets very huffy . I just feel suffocated.
I'm an introvert, struggle with anxiety etc. I like a quiet life with my family, I love my parents, I really do but I wish they would back off a bit
We're going through a really stressful time at the moment and I know they're stressed due to it but I'm feeling like I'm having to deal with both our worry and theirs.
I just find it all weird, none of my friends seem to have the same sort of relationship like I do with my parents. It seems very much like my friends and their children are one unit and grandparents are the next level, whereas my parents act like we are one big family and they have as much right as a say to how the boys are brought up. They want to know everything and anything immediately and if they don't they sulk and make me feel terrible.
We have spent every Christmas with them since my eldest was born. They're rude about what we buy the boys as presents ( they think we get too much- yet they give them lavish gifts ), this year we are planning on staying at home and I'm really excited about it, however Mum is constantly talking about it and when I remind her were staying at home she sulks. My eldest is at his dad's for Christmas ( 1st time ever) and my mum has tried guilt tripping DS
I'm prepared to be told I'm being U, I should be grateful that they are alive and well enough to enjoy time with their grandchildren but I really struggle with how suffocated I feel. I've tried talking to them but they sulk
What do I do?!
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Feel smothered by parents
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overwhelmed1 · 09/09/2016 21:02
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