I am mid 30's with 2 DDs. DD1 is 2.5 years and DD2 6 weeks. I have never been extremely close to DM, she lives about 2 hours away from us, but generally speak on phone every couple of weeks or so. More often when something happening and when it suits her. I.e. When her parents were sick/dying and I lived closer than her.
She works full time, and has a number of hobbies so is pretty busy. But she doesn't seem to make time for me anymore. When I do speak to her it's all about what she has been up to, doesn't seem that interested in me. We always have to make effort to visit her rather than her come to us.
When I was pregnant with DD2 she was on the phone all the time seeing how I was (had complications). She came to see us 1 week after birth but since then I have heard nothing from her at all. No phone calls, texts, nothing. We have had a tough few weeks with a very unsettled newborn and I have struggled to cope with baby and toddler when OH went back to work. I am exhausted! She has no idea how we are. I know I can call her, but why should I? Surely as my mum she should want to see how me and her grandchildren are?
I am prepared to be told I sound like a brat and why don't I just pick up the phone but now I kind of want to see how long it takes her to, it's always me making the effort.
I know I am a grown woman - OH says I am being unreasonable because of this, but I can't help feeling hard done by. All my friends have such close relationships with their mothers and it upsets me that mine doesn't seem bothered. AIBU to feel like this?
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CheeseAndBeans · 05/09/2016 09:16
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