I posted before about my partner.. And his lack of consideration for my current pregnancy.
I'm 37.5 wks gone and have 11 month twins. Every day he wakes up at 6 for work and wakes me too..my boys are great don't get me wrong but the constant whining, fighting, touching or climbing things they aren't meant to is hard work all day on my own. I have no friends where we live so spend most days just with the kids!
I just feel he's not supporting me enough or caring about me. I'm exhausted mentally by the time he comes home.. There is barely a min in the day where I can get peace and quiet or eat anything alone, let alone get a cup of tea without someone trying to climb up on me to try it.
Sat I lost it with him coz he lay in bed for an extra hr after I got up with kids and then when I kept asking him to get up to help me he just kept procrastinating.. Then today he came in from work, (I'm frazzled, my back feels like it's breaking and the pressure of babies head is making it hard to walk) goes and makes himself some food and sits in kitchen with door closed.. No offer of a cuppa for me, then spend 10 mins with kids and says he's away for a shower( a shower?? What's that? Not had a chance for one myself) I said that I was hoping up go upstairs for a break and he still went and took half an hr. He finally came down at dinner time, I was so upset that he just doesn't care about me just now. So I said he can feed the babies and I went upstairs crying. I pulled kyself together and had some silence for half hr and cane bk to get kids bottles ready etc. Kids go to bed, I make dinner. He takes playes through, leaves them above the dishwasher and leaves all pots etc then goes off to bed leaving me to have to clean up. I feel so upset that he is so thoughtless for my needs and how I'm feeling just now.. No concerns about helping me, I have friends due out and Nov and their men are looking after them and helping them out more.. Plus they don't have other kids! I know it's just hormones making me feel so sad but I just don't get why he can't get that I need some help and he needs to step up for the next few weeks.
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Kmoggy · 02/08/2016 21:02
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