To not want to be contacted by the CSA?

(5 Posts)
LostMyBottle Sat 16-Jul-16 23:50:33

I've had to make a temporary claim for income support, due to my circumstances. Whilst on the phone, the man told me that Child Maintenance Options would be contacting me in the next few days. Told me, not asked if I wanted them to contact me... I told the man on the phone that I didn't wish to be contacted, and he said I had no choice, they would be phoning as they needed to discuss it with me.

My ex is a dangerous man, and I want nothing from him. He's an alcoholic, a drug addict and mentally unstable. He ruled my life for years after we split up, and finally he is well and truly out of our lives and has been for a year. The last I heard he was unemployed and living abroad, selling drugs to get by. He's mentally unstable and doesn't care about his children, he is not on the birth certificate and has no interest in being in their lives. I tried making a claim for CS a few years ago and it made him so angry and caused a lot of grief for my whole family.

The CSA have tried phoning me several times today, and I've ignored it. I already told the DWP I want nothing from him, and frankly I don't want to have to explain the whole situation to a stranger on the phone, it's upsetting and none of their business. He is in our past and I want it to stay that way. I'm unlikely to get any money from him anyway, since he's unemployed.

AIBU to not go ahead with this?

makingmiracles Sun 17-Jul-16 00:04:07

If he's not on the birth certificate can you not just lie and say you don't know who the father is?

AndNowItsSeven Sun 17-Jul-16 00:07:46

No yanbu , years ago the dhss would reduce your IS by any maintenance you were due whether you recieved it or not. They no longer do that so its non of their business.

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Sun 17-Jul-16 00:10:38

Answer and tell them you do not wish to make a claim. You don't have to explain, you don't have to give details at all.

CattDamon Sun 17-Jul-16 01:30:03

I just told them I didn't wish to make a claim & they were fine. End of phone call. If they would've pressed me, I had planned to lie & say I didn't know who the dad was.

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