There are so many nasty people in the UK

(29 Posts)
craycraycatlady Tue 05-Jul-16 13:32:19

I don't want to say the world well because I live in the UK could even reduce it to London regardless does anyone else think this?

Just seen some woman abuse a guy who is sitting on the floor.
He could be a begger or homeless who know either way he's sitting on the floor didn't say one word to this woman and she says to him "go get a fuking job you bum"

What is the point in saying that? He didn't even ask her for money.
I did mutter bitch when I walked pass.

I'm not basing my generalisation on just this one incident I'm going through my own thing with a neighbour who is harassing me but playing the victim. Really evil nasty man it's making me suicidal well I am suicidal

I know there are good people out there like the lady I spoke to yesterday via samaritians, my doctor is another one is a good person but I dunno sorry this just affected me probably because of what I'm going through

You just don't know anyone's story so don't judge people

myownprivateidaho Tue 05-Jul-16 13:40:32

Hey catlady! It's horrible that people can be nasty, but I think there are more good people out there than bad. You sound lovely for instance. I'm sorry you're feeling low - please stick with the Samaritans and your doctor, I've been depressed and it does get better. Have you got a family member or friend you see sometimes? Good luck xx

ricketytickety Tue 05-Jul-16 13:53:46

I've thought about this a lot because too. My theory is that about 1 in 10 are antisocial, another 1 in 10 the opposite and actively humanitarian (giving their lives to helping others) and everyone in between on a spectrum from anti-social to very humanitarian. That makes 8 in 10 people varying degrees of kind, with some traits of unkindness in them. Basically most people just want to get along without causing others upset.

sandrabedminster Tue 05-Jul-16 14:21:29

Many of the regulars on aibu are pretty nasty

Its dog eat dog out there. Everyone is looking after themselves and there is a lot of hate.

NotYoda Tue 05-Jul-16 14:28:01

Think of all the times you see people being nice to others. Think of all the times you don't see people being vile

The good vastly vastly outweighs the bad. Vastly

But you are depressed and the nature of depression is that it seeks out , remembers and notice all the shit - filters out the good stuff so the bad gets stronger. I promise that that is true.

I am sorry you are going through hard times.

NotYoda Tue 05-Jul-16 14:28:44

I agree with rickety

purplevase4 Tue 05-Jul-16 14:31:49

There is a huge amount of hate out there. Yesterday I was on a train and because I asked someone to close the loo door (they'd been in and out, and left it open twice, because they were avoiding the guard as they were fare-dodging), they told me to f**k off several times and to suck cock.

They were dealt with at the next station.

But on the other hand people open doors for you, they let you out at road junctions, they give you £1 for the car park machine when you don't have any spare coins...etc etc. Lots of good too.

NotYoda Tue 05-Jul-16 14:33:42

I don't think it will help the OP to have confirmed what she believes, with lists of horrible things that have happened (which is a perspective based on being depressed). She has said she's suicidal

ExtraHotLatteToGo Tue 05-Jul-16 14:39:46

There are far more nice people than nasty, they just don't get the attention.

dizzyfucker Tue 05-Jul-16 14:48:18

Absolutely what NotYoda said. Your brain is wired to remember negative events because those events are a threat, for people suffering from external negativity this can be magnified and then it is hard or almost imposible to focus on positive events. They will seem out of reach or fruitless, and they are swamped by the negative. But they are not, I promise.

The woman you saw is probably battling with her own problems. Likewise your neighbour. They are attacking someone weaker because it gives them a false sense of feeling strong. Keep fighting it and keep going. flowers

PortiaFinis Tue 05-Jul-16 14:49:53

I remember reading this piece written by Patton Oswalt written after the Boston Marathon bombing and I do find it actually quite comforting/reassuring when you see grim things - even if it's not on the same scale as a terrorist attack.
m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3088337.html

BengalCatMum Tue 05-Jul-16 15:00:59

Wooo, welldone on the 'bitch' comment OP.

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way though, please seek as much support as possible.

flowers
Best wishes - my thoughts are with you.

TrueBlueYorkshire Tue 05-Jul-16 15:02:50

When you walk down the street you walk past hundreds of lovely people and it only takes one potentially antisocial person to change your opinion.

As someone who has worked all around the world I will say as a general statement that these kind of people tend to stick out like sore thumbs when you live in a civil society as their behaviour is so different from everyone elses, and to a certain degree they get away with bad behaviour as being a civil society we wont extract an unduly harsh punishment on them.

I've worked in third world countries where everyone was antisocial to anyone they didn't know, and i've also worked in countries where everyone was lovely because of the fear of being punished if they stepped out of line. I can safely say i would much rather live in a well educated, liberal country where we occasionally have to tolerate some antisocial behaviour.

Think on a daily basis with how many people from a huge variety of social backgrounds, different cultures you have to interact. Its actually a wonder that we are all so lovely to one another and a testament to peoples good nature.

MeAndMy3LovelyBoys Tue 05-Jul-16 15:07:08

That's horrible OP. sad Maybe one day she will find herself out of a job. Can happen to anyone.

EverythingWillBeFine Tue 05-Jul-16 15:12:30

cray I'll tell you what is helping me.
What is helping is to do a list of all the nice things that have happened each day, things that are you grateful about.
This could be the person who let you pass at the junction, the woman at the checkout that just smiled to you, or much bigger things like your GP etc...
And I remember to be caring towards myself too, just I would like others to do towards me.
It's noticing and remembering all these things taht are making a difference and help me see the godness in people rather than all the nastiness.

Do you have anyone in RL that is looking after you (as in being kind, maybe some emotional support, thereto support in RL)?

craycraycatlady Tue 05-Jul-16 15:21:27

Thanks guys you all cheered me up and it's true what you are all saying about more good.
I feel better just sitting in a park now enjoying nature. x

LittleLionMansMummy Tue 05-Jul-16 15:44:44

It always strikes me as the exception when I come across something like this, which says to me that it is in fact the exception and that there are vastly more good people who do good things in the world than bad. At least that's what I tell my ds and he seems to accept that.

PovertyPain Tue 05-Jul-16 15:47:50

I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time, OP. I'm also battling depression and have arsehole neighbours, so I can relate to his you feel. I've also had recent experience of selfish people in action the last few days, to the point of just wanting to curl UK in a corner. I have to keep going through the motions for the kids and run a small business from home, to pay the bills.

I was at a client's house this morning and observed a young boy @8-10 yrs old with a small collie dog. I hate seeing children out with dogs they can't handle. Noticed him telling the dog to sit, which it did, then he precedes to talk to it, rubs it's chin, stokes it's face as it sits looking up at him, and gives it the sweetest cuddle. It was the most touching sight of mutual and gentle love I've ever seen between a small child and a dog I've ever seen. I was quite choked up, watching them and had to fight the urge to stop the car and give them both a big hug, for cheering me up, as I didn't want his mother posting about the weird woman that accosted her child grinblush

PovertyPain Tue 05-Jul-16 15:49:05

Excuse all the spelling mistakes. Obvious it's all the fault of spellcheck. wink

Bambambini Tue 05-Jul-16 15:51:42

I think the UK is very safe and very tolerant actually with generally pleasant helpful folk.

PansyGiraffe Tue 05-Jul-16 16:16:04

On my train this morning a lady fainted. A whole carriage-worth of commuters broke out of their commuter-hell-bubbles to help her, a shout out down the carriage for water, she was well looked after. There are good and bad in the world.

pippinandtog Tue 05-Jul-16 16:21:15

PovertyPain, like the tale of the boy and the collie dog.
Think I've got something in my eye.

PovertyPain Tue 05-Jul-16 16:24:38

Think I've got something in my eye.

I'm not the type to grin get something in my eye, but I certainly did this morning. Must be the wind blowing dust about. winksmile

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Tue 05-Jul-16 17:42:01

The fucking horrible cunt. How does she know what lead him to where he is. Anything in his life could have happened.
Id have given her a right mouthful. I won't stand for vulnerable people being mocked and put down. It's as simple that. They have enough to put up with without twats passing comments.
I'm sure Karma and the wheel of fortune will deal with her. Goes around comes around and all that.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Tue 05-Jul-16 17:43:13

There are more good than bad, just there's always a few that give people a bad name.

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