to not know how to handle this...

Moocowface · 2016-05-31 10:02:40

Have name changed. I was looking through my DH's phone. I do this a few times per year. He's never cheated or given me cause to suspect that he might, but there are things I'm aware of from his past that I want to make sure he's not repeating. That aside, he's in a whatsapp group with some work colleagues. They are all in their mid to late forties, married and have kids. Their chat is mainly quite childish and puerile, but one of DH's colleagues periodically sends photos that have blatantly been lifted from Facebook of his niece (17 y/o) on nights out with comments about the size of her breasts. Sometimes photos will include her friends, and they remark on things like cleavage etc. I feel sickened by this. Firstly, not clear if the niece is a blood relation or niece through marriage. Secondly, that her photos are being lifted from her social media without her knowledge and used in this way. Thirdly - the age difference between these young girls and older, married men is making me feel unwell. The last message was from DH's colleague with a photo of his niece and her friends all dressed up saying 'Niece is off out with her friends again'. One of DH's colleagues asked where they were going, and my DH answered 'cocksville'. I have no idea what to do about this. I am pretty angry. It's inappropriate, disrespectful and just...wrong. But I did look at his phone and that was an invasion of his privacy. AIBU to ask for suggestions on how to deal with this?

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Thanks to everyone who gave advice here.

The OP's concerned about the level of detail she's included so we've agreed to delete this thread for her as a one-off.